feedback for "Parental Advisory: Pregnant and Miserable"

1. well yeah... and you probably gonna be writing the same kind of letter about parenting, too.. coz it's not easy. welcome to the club.

   posted by : DaintySplendor on 1/7/2009 at 12:09 PM Flag For Abuse

2. I KNOW! That's why I wrote: My Miserable, Lonely, Lesbian Pregnancy. For some reason the misery of pregnancy came as a surprise to me too.
   
   Good luck.
   
   Andrea

   posted by : andreaandrea on 1/7/2009 at 1:24 PM Flag For Abuse

3. I also experienced tremendous depression during pregnancy. I had fantasies that right before the birth I would be in a car wreck, and that I would die, but that they would save the baby. In retrospect, I see it was hormonal - I do not have a history of depression, and my depression completely lifted after the birth, never to return. So my advice would be to try to develop a little clinical detatchment and understand that your dark mood is almost certainly a pregnancy-related symptom.

   posted by : frusengladje on 1/7/2009 at 2:21 PM Flag For Abuse

4. Yep, this happened to me too. Also, the first 4 months after birth were hell for me too.
   
   BUT, I'm now a happy woman with a gorgeous 8 month old!!
   
   Trust me, it goes away.
   
   I look back & laugh, at the crazy, psychotic, pregnant woman that I was...I hated the world..lol..
   
   (I had a miracle pregnancy that I was extremely grateful for, & I was still miserable...I can honestly say that Hormone's do NOT play!)

   posted by : Zina Z on 1/7/2009 at 4:36 PM Flag For Abuse

5. I was the same way. I haaated being pregnant with my last child. I just wanted it to be over with already. Everyday i just thought about how much i hated it. andreaandrea i had the same fantasy over and over again also. sometimes different scenarios, but always the same outcome. Someone saves the baby, im gone and done with it all.
   Things are a bit better now. I love my baby and my family, but definitely dont want to be pregnant again.

   posted by : babiesbabies on 1/8/2009 at 6:23 PM Flag For Abuse

6. I also had a miserable pregnancy -- every complication you can name, months and months on bedrest, endless tests and hospital visits and so on and so forth capped off by an emergency c-section. But motherhood has been wonderful; my little girl was definitely worth all of the suffering. Hang in there.

   posted by : Knitty on 1/8/2009 at 10:47 PM Flag For Abuse

7. Yes, it is awful to feel sick and unhappy for such a long time. I am a complete wimp when it comes to discomfort and my poor partner listened to me cry myself to sleep for weeks during my pregnancy. Now that I am a happy mama to a beautiful, healthy one year old I can see that I needed to go through it, all of it. The good and the bad, the fears and the panic. It was all part of my transformation. I was a woman, a daughter, a wife and I became a mother. There is no harder job but you are doing it, right now you are doing it. It will pass and you will be stronger for the next change...there are many to come.

   posted by : goodmama on 1/8/2009 at 10:55 PM Flag For Abuse

8. I just wanted to say don't worry- it will pass. I was miserable in a major way for my first pregnancy. The whole time. It totally sucked on many many levels.
   
   BUT, as soon as that baby popped- everything was instantly better. It's true- there will be times that you still feel like crap even after birth- but everyone feels that way sometimes, even those who don't have kids.
   
   I'm on pregnancy number two and again, it's terrible. But, it's sooooo much easier this time knowing that all this stuff will pass when the baby is born. I can remember with the first one being up late at night, alone, crying, depressed, sick thinking- 'will I EVER feel better again?'. I now know the answer is yes. I hope this helps. I know when I felt that way I would have loved to hear this feedback from someone...instead all I ever heard was how AWESOME being pregnant is from my peers. In my experience the only thing that was awesome about it was the baby that was born at the end. Hang in there girl!

   posted by : anon9989 on 1/11/2009 at 7:15 PM Flag For Abuse

9. It is hard to be happy and joyous when you feel terrible. I had to take a depression screening as part of a routine pregnancy class through my health provider and they were concerned that I answered yes to the question Do you not enjoy things like you used to? Well of course I don't! I feel achey and nauseated and tired all the time! I think I'll like this whole mom thing better when me and the baby have our own bodies. In the meantime I just remind myself that growing a baby (or two in my case) is hard work for the body and lots of work for the baby too. We'll muddle through, and it'll be worth the discomfort. I'll also give thanks every day that my husband is so kind and understanding, cuz' I whine and complain all the time. ;)

   posted by : mchaos on 1/13/2009 at 1:11 PM Flag For Abuse

10. I feel the same way! I don't know if I can do a whole 9 months! I am only 10 weeks, not out of the first trimester, but something tells me this is going to last longer. :( I am always sick to my stomach. I have tried ever possible home remedy. I just a vomiting mess :(
    chococherry

    posted by : chococherry on 2/10/2009 at 1:33 PM Flag For Abuse