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My husband (47) and I (37) have a 5 yr old son together.  Hubby has 2 other sons from his previous marriage (28 and 23).  I just had a miscarriage (3 weeks ago) and I DESPERATELY want to try again.  Hubby wasn't too excited about this last pregnancy (it was unexpected) but was "coming around".  Hubby doesn't want another child.  His argument is that he is too old and won't be able to watch his children grow up.  (He acts as if he's dying rather than perfectly healthy).  The other night (the night before my last doctor's appointment after my D&C) I brought up the subject.  He said that I would need to have a "convincing and foolproof" argument to change his mind and have a second child (this was after he said I was being selfish for wanting another kid since he doesn't).  So, Parents, my question is: got any ideas?  I'm planning on using the "Only Child Syndrome" (not that there is anything wrong with being an only child) and the "I Do All The Work and You Have All The Fun" (I change diapers,handle feeding, baths, clothes, parent/teacher conferences, taking time off work with a sick child, going to work sick because of a sick child, sacrificing my latte or new slingbacks because Jr. needs the latest Disney movie on DVD, etc.  Hubby hangs out, plays catch and just has fun with his 'little buddy').  I need something more.  I need all the help I can get.  Yes, this is mainly for my happiness and fulfillment, but it's not like I'm not going to pay for my joy!  LOL!

He is so NOT too old... my grandfather was born in 1934 and has a 12 year-old. You do the math. He is still alive and ticking and watching all of his kids (all six of them, my mom being the oldest at 51). This may not be a convincing arguement, but atleast it goes to show that he is still a young'en compared to my dear ol' grandpa. LOL.

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 He is not too old! Having a baby will make him feel young again! 

The guy has 3 kids already! Give him a break. You should ask yourself, "Do I want to to have a child with someone who needs convincing?" I agree that 47 isn't too old if he's healthy. I just had my first child at 42 and though I'm healthy I can't help but do the math... I won't be one of those guys who retires early and travels the world because my daughter will be in college when I'm 64! Also, it's a little strange that you want another child and then complain about all the work you have to with the first one. Do you need help raising your first child or do you want even more work to do with a second child? What makes you think your husband will pitch in more if you have a second one.

I hope I don't sound harsh. I know you wanted some convincing arguments to have a second child and I didn't really give you any. Here's one: "I love you with all my heart and having another child with you is the deepest most fulfilling way I can think of to express it." 

 I really dont think that your husband is old at all, but if he doesnt want another child

you cant force him to have another one, so hopefully you will all work it out