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Comforting a friend post-birth?

Last post 05-23-2008 12:39 AM by Anonymous. 1 replies.
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  • 03-31-2008 12:32 PM

    Comforting a friend post-birth?

    My friend just had her first baby! 

     She was very committed to having a vaginal birth and no interventions, but after 24 hours in labor, agreed to undergo a C-Section because (if I understand correctly) both mom and baby were at risk for serious infection.

     She's delighted with her little girl, and so happy to have her out in the world - but she is actually pretty upset about the C-section (including what it means for her ability to have natural births in the future).

     Does anyone have advice on comfort I could give? I didn't face this myself and am not sure what I can say - I mean, I can give general comfort, but nothing specific.

  • 05-23-2008 12:39 AM In reply to

    Re: Comforting a friend post-birth?

     It sounds like she is very upset about having a C-section.  I've often heard from friends that they felt like "failures" because they had a c-section.  Nothing can be further from the truth!  She did not get the exact experience that she wanted but she can look forward to finding a hospital that allows VBAC (vaginal birth after c-section).  Funny how it's almost like experiencing the very small disappointments that occur on a wedding day.  

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