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wtf is it with most everybody? they become perfect people when the get pregnant or have a child? nfw. i remained myself while pregnant, and remain myself now that i'm a mom.  i drank when i felt like it, i even (GASP!!) smoked some weed while i was pregnant. still do.  it helped/helps a LOT. everything in moderation.  the kid is just fine, thank you very much. to all the perfectos out there--i simply don't believe you.  too bad people aren't honest about their experiences, then we'd really know quite a lot about what does and does not affect children in utero.  and no, i'm not "selfish"--so save the hellfire and damnation for someone who cares.  maybe i am totally unique "new urban parent", but i doubt it. this site is shaping up just like all the other fear-based, baby-dust-sprinking, gushy, gooey, drivel out there--except with hipper advertising. 

I'm stoned right now.  The kid is in bed, he's fine.  I'll be in bed soon myself.
 

Anonymous:

smoked some weed while i was pregnant. still do.  it helped/helps a LOT. everything in moderation.  the kid is just fine, thank you very much.

I don't think that there is PC martyrdom here. I think that people generally do change their habits when they are expecting. I agree that a drink here and there is no big deal, but smoking...smoking anything...could cause real harm to unborn children. There are studies that SHOW this. Undersized, developmental challenges, a whole host of issues that come from smoking. So while I agree with your assessment that you are not being "selfish," you are taking a HUGE chance by getting high while pregnant. There are thousands of babies born each day addicted to drugs by parents who don't modify their behavior. No hellfire or damnation, just the plain truth.

I also challenge the arguement that this site is shaping up like all the rest, I don't think there is another place on the web where your posting would not incite a riot. Since you feel that everyone here is a martyr, aren't you surprised that there hasn't been an onslaught of shocked responses.

I am so happy that your child is fine.

"but smoking...smoking anything...could cause real harm to unborn children. There are studies that SHOW this. Undersized, developmental challenges, a whole host of issues that come from smoking."

 

if you check you biased facts that you are pumping out and check the rest of the worlds info, it is not so 100%  what you think.  The good ol’ USA is good at keeping contradictory information far away.  If you really check studies, you will find your info tainted.  check out studies done with Dutch women,  Island women and explore actual facts.  We are talking about casual usage not smoking an ounce of reefer a day. there is no such thing as plain truth.  There are studies that show casual usage to increased IQ. In the USA, no drinking.  In England, 2 drinks per day.  The USA is so doctor-centric/phobic and we are ready to take what they say at face value becouse THEY ARE DOCTORS.  

 
I agree with the original post.  I mean hell I get more carcinogens just breathing NYC, LA air then smoking a joint. Y'all are a bunch prissy pre-madonnas that can't think and use comon sense all on your own.

This is about being honest, not saying what is supposed to be said.  Step up, be honest, not; "oh my, why I would never,"  Bullshit!

 

no wonder the name... BABBLE away..... 

 

After doing a LOT of research on the subject, my wife decided to continue to use cannabis while pregnant.  HOWEVER, she did not smoke it at all.  She either vaporized it, or consumed medical marijuana grade edibles, and never in true excess.  When I smoked (and I smoke every day, I have a medical recommendation valid and legal under California proposition 215 and SB 420) I did it in another room of the house.  She didn't drink alcohol at all (we don't drink), and consumed a light amount of caffeine per day, no coffee.

Yes, our child was full term and only weighed 5 lbs, 9 oz.  HOWEVER, four months later she is full weight, and extremely healthy, active and happy.  The birth was one of the easiest that our obstatrician had seen, and my wife required only THREE pushes to get our daughter out. 

The American Government does not want mothers-to-be to know that cannabis causes very little harm to gestating infants.

 

Fascinating debate and clearly an important one, and I agree with you, the US tends to govern through fear tactics but dang, your tone is unnecessarily aggressive here. If you smoke cannabis, I'd expect you to be a little more chill in your delivery, eh? We're all open to talking about it here, so let's get to the important points...

OK I smoked "weed" both times I was pregnant. My dr was aware and did not discourage it. It was something I research deeply and discussed with her. Both of my children are healthy and happy. There are many studies in England that show the positive effects it can have on your unborn child. It is been proven less harmful then cigs or beer. I do not broadcast my lifestyle or experiences to anyone because of how fast I would get labled "bad". Just keep your head up your not alone we are all "new urban parents" even the ones who have a glass of wine or just one cig. Its a new age babe

indeed brit babymamanonymous, it is a new age.  and it's the only one we get, so i think it's a shame that you (and i) don't "broadcast" our  "lifestyle and experiences" because we'd be thought "bad."  i punk out and keep quiet b/c people think i'm nuts enough as it is. but i bothered to post (maybe the 3rd post in my life) because i know i'm not unique, and when you hardly ever hear a voice on parenting sites that sounds like your own, it can add to the undeniable isolation parenting for the first time brings. it is your focus.  it is who you are, for a time. so a little support can go a long way. and not for nuthin'--we. are. not. bad.  so it's sad that we don't/can't broadcast. shit, "bugaboo" is a more important message than "the wicked witch is dead!"  meaning, whether we say it or not, there are thousands of moms who toke, and know that if anything, it seems to help, not hurt.  and then a vape takes the very low risk and make it even lower. we know the earth isn't flat. usually, i could care less, live and let live, who cares what other people do or know? but i just read "alternadad" and it's made me cranky on the subject--what with the hip pothead dad, and the mom who used his self-birthday-present vape "just once."  rank that with "i didn't inhale." or maybe it's true. but it just seems like the alternadads are coming out like it's west palm beach, and there's nary an alternamom as far as the eye can read.  sorry about cracking on the site before.  i was on it, after all.  and i came back to see if ther