Babble

B:  I can see why your cousin would particularly want to celebrate, given the difficulties she has had in the past.  I don't think there is any point in addressing the issue of her abortion at all - she is clearly in a different situation now.  It seems to me that it would be really nice to show your support for her now by throwing a shower. 

 As for the original question about two baby showers, I agree that the it isn't really appropriate to ask guests to buy all of the same gifts for a second time, but what's wrong with having a get-together among friends to celebrate the imminent birth of another child?  I think a special gift specifically for that child (like the book someone mentioned) would be really thoughtful. 

I'm having my second baby in Sept. and was recently treated to a baby "sprinkle".  It was a much smaller party than my first shower.  The theme was more of a mom's luncheon/afternoon off - than gifts for the baby.  Most of the invitees were immediate family and some new moms I've made friends with over the last few years.  The other mom guests commented that they really enjoyed having a nice meal with other moms that didn't involve bottles highchairs and temper tantrums.  There were a few gifts - but mainly for me!  A new robe to take to take to the hospital, a book of daily Chrisitan devotions for moms etc, gift card for some new post-maternity clothes.  And while the invite said no gifts necessary - most people brought a little something anyway.  Quite a few of the second time moms also noted that they had wished that someone had done something like this for them.  It was a really lovely - low key - afternoon.   In my thankyou notes I mentioned that everyone can use a refreshing "sprinkle" once in a while - especially a pregnant mom already taking care of one or more little ones!

my friends and family commonly have a shower for 2nd, 3rd, etc BUT we do a diaper shower.  let's face it... diapers are expensive.  guests bring diapers for the new baby, and if they wish to get a gift other than diapers that is their choice.  personally, i had a lot of borrowed stuff with my first child that i had to give back when i was done, and now it is in use by the original owner... so now i need to purchase a few hundred dollars worth of items (ie. swing, bouncer, walker)  that is just how my community treats this situation.  i don't think that anyone should be judged as greedy for doing so, or as unfriendly for not doing so.

Well I am having the same sex child and I SOLD all my clothes for the first baby as my husband said "there can only be one child" and then changed his mind a year later.  Either way, why not celebrate the second child?  Doesn't he/she deserve the same excitement as the first?  Do all his/her clothes have to be second hand and used? 

My husband was so excited when they threw a shower for him at work.  He was so proud. 

Really in life you celebrate baby showers, kids birthdays and then later it goes to just funerals.  Seriously, why not celebrate. 

I think a shower is to get parents started with baby supplies.  It is tacky to expect people to give again, you decided to have another child so what ever you don't have is your problem.  As far as celebrating all babies, well the new parents and their families can do that without having a shower.  Enough is enough already.  The only way I think it would be a good idea is if the hat was passed and the money given to a charity that benefits children, like St. Jude Hospital.  Funny I never have received an invitation with that on it.  Selfishness and Greed.

                                                                         Gee

 I think a shower for a second baby is fine. Make it more of a get together/fun celebration instead of a gift giving party!