Adoption After Having Biological Kids: What's the Big Deal?

re: Adoption After Having Biological Kids: What's the Big Deal?

Melanie — Mon, 01 Jun 2009 20:39:42 GMT

Thank you for this piece! My husband and I have always planned to have two biological children (if we could) and then adopt (at least) one. Everyone we have shared that plan with has been supportive -- I had no idea there was a "stigma" associated with it. Very eye-opening.

It's true, family is family. I think it's a beautiful message to send to ALL kids in the family that they are truly wanted, no matter how they join the brood.

re: Adoption After Having Biological Kids: What's the Big Deal?

Laundry and Children — Mon, 01 Jun 2009 17:45:51 GMT

We were foster parents who discovered we were pregnant just 3 weeks after our first kids arrived. We have since adopted our foster kids. I can't really say which came first the bio-baby or the adopted kids, because they all sort of arrived at the same time. Still, I can tell you that we are a family unit, blood or no blood, family is family.

re: Adoption After Having Biological Kids: What's the Big Deal?

NC Mom — Mon, 01 Jun 2009 17:44:09 GMT

There are many children who need loving homes and it's wonderful when one is placed in a home with or without biological kids. Although, it's not always as happy or as easy as "My family is my family.". I feel confident that my son will see it that way, but he will not be raised in a mixed household like I was. Bringing in a child from outside your family can have unintended consequences and it will change the experience of your biological children. That being said, it is not always a bad thing it can be wonderful, but it is not something that should be taken lightly. Not that most people casually adopt extra children, but it will effect your biological children in both obvious and subtle ways that you will not understand until you live it.

re: Adoption After Having Biological Kids: What's the Big Deal?

Alice — Mon, 01 Jun 2009 17:40:11 GMT

We felt the same way when we adopted after having biological children. There was room for more. Nice piece.