re: Biological Father of Madonna's Adopted Son Very Concerned

Thanksgivingmom — Mon, 20 Oct 2008 20:08:42 GMT

As a first mom, I too believe in open adoption. Unfortunately, I don't think that Madonna has an obligation necessarily. Had she agreed at the time of placement (or anytime since) that she would be participating in an open adoption with David's first father then yes, absolutely, that would be her obligation.

Outside of that agreement, it's not an obligation, but I certainly think that she SHOULD contact him. I would be devastated to have to find things out about my daughter through a third party (or the international press!) when her Mom knows very well how to get a hold of me.

I agree with the previous poster - it's a moral imperitive to me - and I would hope that Madonna would see the value in that connection and communication as well.

re: Biological Father of Madonna's Adopted Son Very Concerned

Shannon LC Cate — Mon, 20 Oct 2008 00:37:31 GMT

They are absolutely his business. As I recall, this adoption was quite misrepresented when it happened and David was represented as an orphan with no family which is completely untrue.

When first parents are known and are no harm to the child (as in dangerously abusive) I think it is a moral imperative for the chidren to know them and have as full a relationship as possible. I don't know if Madonna is already doing this, but she ought ot be making sure David stays in as close contact with his first family as possible. This would, in many ways, I can't help but think, reassure David's father.

I'm an adoptive mother of two and believe strongly in the benefits of open adoption. The more different the two families are (Malawi peasant versus International Mega-Star seems about as different as it gets) the more important I think it is to help a child feel in touch with his origins.