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  • Obama’s Mama: Working Mother Extraordinaire

    Turns out there’s another reason why Barack Obama’s run for the presidency is unique: he is the first presidential candidate whose now deceased mother is interesting enough to warrant a Time cover story. Regardless of politics (though it's probably pretty clear where my loyalties lie), the article is a moving examination of the varied ways women in the last century have filled the roles of wife and mother, even as they strive to make meaningful contributions to the world at large.

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  • Pregcellent: Who's Having All Those Babies Out of Wedlock?

    teen pregnancyI'm going to try and write this without once referring to the movie Juno. (Crap, does that count?) Remember back in the day, when you could easily wax hysterical over the issue of teen pregnancy? When we were freaked about babies having babies? Well, in the U.S. teen pregnancy rates are falling, so it's going to be that much harder to whip ourselves into a lather, and that is good. In 2004, only 12 percent of pregnancies were to teen moms, compared to 15 percent in 1990. Oh, and one likely factor in the drop is the more frequent use of birth control methods. Imagine that. 

    However, there is another group who are having babies outside of marriage...

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  • More Babies With Unmarried 'Rents

    mother and childChild Trends reports that the number of kids born out of wedlock has risen. (Doesn't "wedlock" sound so, well, "ball-and-chain"?) According to the research, 37 percent of babies today are born to unmarried parents, compared to 22 percent two decades ago. A little more than half of those children came into households where two parents were present. Highly educated, white women were least likely to have a child without being married, but were most likely to live with their partner if they did. More than 70 percent of pregnancies to unmarried, cohabiting partners were unintended. No word on how many came as the result of a few too many momosas.

    The research led Child Trends to recommend some steps, such as better pregnancy prevention education for couples. They also cite studies showing that children born out of wedlock, even in cohabiting relationships, fare worse economically and emotionally than children of married couples, and suggest that couples should be supported in forming stable marriages.

    Not to be the anti-marriage girl here, but I often wonder about some of these "marriage is the way" conclusions. Like, if the numbers of babies born outside marriage is going up because couples are living together without getting married due to some changing social conventions, will that actually change the statistical outcomes for babies in those families? Are the current prospects for kids with unmarried parents worse because the parents choose not to get married, or is there something to the fact that the parents don't want to get married that is having more of an effect on kids? Be careful with those research studies, my peeps.


  • Married Moms Really Better for Kids?

    divorceThe National Review Online published this column claiming that married mothers deserve special praise, because staying married is soooo much better for the children. After a couple of creepy digs at single motherhood and sperm donors (and the NY Times, of course) author W. Bradford Wilcox claims, "...married mothers serve our nation's neighborhoods, children, and even themselves better than any of the dizzying array of alternatives to married motherhood. This truth was abundantly clear to me after surveying the social-scientific literature on marriage and child well-being with 15 other family scholars for a recent report, Why Marriage Matters: Twenty-Six Conclusions from the Social Sciences."

    Oh, now I get it. See, the link is to an organization called the Institute for American Values, which puts out all kinds of socially conservative studies, often with an array of supporters from both political camps. A few years back they told us that kids are hardwired to need religion. (BTW, they are primarily funded by conservative foundations.) What they neglect to mention in this report on marriage is that many of those studies cited have been questioned by other researchers, for a couple of key reasons. One of the biggies is that when it comes to divorce, it's sometimes hard to know where the real problem lies. For example, couples divorce generally because of certain marital issues, and it can be hard to determine if the divorce itself messed with the kids, or if it was those other issues, or even the years of being witness to a troubled relationship. Another problem is that some studies ask children of divorce to self-report levels of happiness, and it's hard to know if those folks claim greater angst because their parents' problems were identified and perhaps more openly discussed.

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  • Strollerderby Playdate: People Are Mean

    mean girlsWhen I dropped my daughter off at school yesterday, she was crying because she couldn't sit in the front seat of the car (I'll spare you the details of that saga.) As the kids were lining up to file inside the classroom, one of her little classmates turned to her and said, "Crybaby." I wondered what would happen if I ever-so-gently nudged that kid in the eyeball with my car key, and then I took a deep breath and reminded myself that there's plenty of jerks in the world and it's good for both my daughter and I to learn to deal with them without scratching corneas. Then I went off to blogland to find out how other folks deal with it.

    The Cheeky Lotus took a bullet to save her kid's feelings and made me well up in the process. Big hugs, sister!

    Meanwhile, the Sarcastic Journalist discovered that some people have no sense of humor. But she can sell sex toys at my house any day.

    Suburban Turmoil had to take a polygraph just to facilitate a sleepover. FYI, we offer all our houseguests guns and crack while they watch our sex tapes.

    Not So Pregnant has made up a handy checklist for potential single mom suitors. Sounds like some of them are jerks.

    Now, If all that has made you lose your faith in humanity forever, get into your feelings with Beaker at the Poop. It's safe to love again.  

  • Miss World Competition To Miss Jamaica: Your Pregnancy Is O.K. With Us

    Founder and Chairwoman of the Miss World Limited, Julia Morley, has come out to support Sara Lawrence, Miss World Caribbean, and made it clear that she will not expect Sara to relinquish her title due to an unplanned pregnancy.  In fact, she has given Sara her unwavering support during this time, and made it clear that she expects local pageant promoters, including Mickey Haughton-James, head of the Jamaica pageant, to do the same.

    Sara made headlines around the world when she when she announced that she was pregnant and forfeiting her Miss Jamaica World title. But when Julia Morley caught wind of the announcement, she quickly intervened, claiming that Sara "is a warm, compassionate, brilliant girl whose behaviour and promotion of Jamaica is second to none... it is not for anyone to condemn Ms Lawrence, but to give her the love and support she needs during her pregnancy." (Click here to read Julia's full letter of support.)


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