Attachment parents (APs), those lovely kind souls mean well. They
do. But sometimes following the tenets of perfect childrearing can
cause irreparable harm to the marriage upon which the children
ultimately depend.
Marriages struggle after kids,
there's no doubt about it. And I think the higher your childrearing
standards are, the more pressure is placed on the marriage after kids.
Here are 5 attachment parenting practices and some suggested applications to marriage or partnerships:
1. Respond with Sensitivity.
APs are encouraged to respond to the nonverbal cues of infants and
young children and to respond with love and gentleness. In marriage,
partners worn out from caring for children often forget to follow the
same tenets in caring for the marriage.
2. Nurturing Touch
- The concept of loving your child with loving touch is an obviously
good parenting practice and can mean hugs, kisses, but also handholding
and shoulder rubs. The same approach can strengthen the marriage.
Friendly touch (the kind that doesn't ask for anything in return) can
build a bridge between even the most harried of harried souls.
Hand-holding, kissing, and shoulder rubs can work miracles on a
stressed out couple.
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