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  • Mommy? Not The Mommy -- If You Adopted, Contest Says

    When is a mom not a mom?

    When she's an adoptive or foster mom, apparently.

    Let me back up a bit here. NBC and Teleflora ran a queasily saccharine "America's Favorite Mom" contest leading up to Mother's Day, which allowed people to vote for their favorite moms in a variety of categories: single mom, working mom, "chairman of everything" mom (gack—this means stay-at-home mom from what I can tell), and oh yes:  "Non-Mom Mom." For adoptive, foster, and grandma-acting-as-mom moms.

    Uh-huh.

     

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  • Fat Guy Gets Go-Ahead to Adopt

    A super overweight guy who was convinced that a judge denied him custody of his cousin’s son because of the man’s size has once again regained custody of the little boy.

    Now the wheels are in motion ...

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  • Minnesota Getting Tougher on Would-be Foster Parents

    fingerprintsHey!  Want to help out one of the almost 15,000 Minnesota kids needing foster care?  Well, get your fingerprints ready...those wishing to become foster parents in Minnesota are about to have a much tougher time of it if the new requirements that are being proposed go through.  The changes, part of a $1.2 million-a-year overhaul of the foster parent system, are being proposed partly to comply with federal standards designed to keep sexual offenders from preying on children.  Lest you think that the Land of Garrison Keillor is rife with child molestors who become foster parents, apparently only 1/10th of one percent of Minnesota foster kids were found to have been sexually abused in 2005.  That's obviously 1/10th of one percent too many for the children tragically involved, but statistically is insignificant and certainly doesn't warrant the new changes which are said to not be enough to have flagged a warning in the recent case of Perry Wayne Pfitzer who has pleaded not guilty to molesting his two foster daughters, ages 4 and 6, last summer, and became a foster parent despite a 1982 indecent exposure conviction.  So why these sweeping changes, keeping a new team of about a dozen workers busy checking records and requiring fingerprints even from family members who wish to foster, while forcing kids into shelters while they await the results of this laborious process?

    Because anybody who's ever been sexually abused knows how helpless it makes you and everyone around you feel.  But throwing legislation at the problem isn't going to make it go away, and my fear is that good people who truly have the best interests of children at heart may be scared away by the new regulations, leaving children without homes.


  • More Bans on Same Sex Foster Parents?

    I Love My Gay ParentsIt looks like the Arkansas state legislature is going to try to take some steps to make sure that nobody accidentally confuses them with a progressive state. You see, last June the Arkansas Supreme Court ruled that a state ban on homosexual couples being foster partents was unconstitutional. Sadly, The Family Council and some of the Arkansas legislators are out to get the old ban written into law.

    According to this slightly confusing article by Doug Thompson, The Family Council feels that they won't have any trouble finding a sponsor to get a bill passed banning couples from being foster parents based on sexual orientation.

    You may have read a post here a week and a half ago by CityMama talking about the new restrictions that Texas is using to stop people from becoming foster parents. I guess Arkansas could join Texas in a system that wouldn't allow same sex couples to participate in an overburdened foster system.

    Feel free to disagree with me, but I don't see how placing a child with two people (unmarried, gay, lesbian, bisexual or transgendered) who are genuinely going out of their way to take in a juvenile that needs a good home could not be in that child's best interest. These children need a place to live. The state needs people to help. Do these states assume that all homosexuals are also pedophiles? It doesn't make sense. What sort of 40 year old stereotype porpoganda are these people working off of?

    I have friends with gay parents. I have gay friends that are parents. I have not noticed that the children turn out any different from those of us with parents of opposite genders, with the possible exception that most of these people end up slightly more open minded.

    That doesn't seem like such a bad thing to me. 

     

     


  • Texas Foster Parents Not Allowed to Smoke Cigarettes in Front of Kids (Briskets and Ribs Okay)

    3yosmokerTexas is joining Vermont, Washington, and Maine in passing a new law stating that foster parents are not allowed to smoke in their homes or cars while children are present. The law takes effect on January 1, the same day that a buck-a-pack tax hike goes into effect. Personally, I could give a rip about smokers feeling like their civil rights are being violated, I'm all for laws that keep second-hand smoke away from our country's most vulnerable children.

    Critics say that the state shouldn't "tighten foster parent eligibility when an increasing number of children need help." They say the law will discourage people from becoming foster parents. I say foster parents can go outside to light up. Many smokers with children smoke outside or away from their kids out of consideration for their health.

    This surely won't be the last restriction Texas places on its foster parent community. After all, this is the state that wants its foster parents to be heterosexual despite the fact there are about 43,000 gay and lesbian couples who are willing to foster children. They can't all be smokers.



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