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Kentucky Bill Would Ban Same-Sex Foster Parents

Posted by Shannon LC Cate

A bill in the Kentucky state senate would restrict foster care and adoption in the state to married couples or single people living alone.  A similar bill passed in Arkansas last November.  If Kentucky passes this one, it will be the seventh state with an essential ban against same-sex foster and adoptive parents.

In every time, everywhere, foster parents and those interested in adopting older children from the public system are too few and far between.  Kentucky has over 7,000 children currently in foster care, about 2,000 of which are available for and awaiting adoption.  The state, like most, is trying to recruit more foster and adoptive parents for these kids.

Restricting the available homes for children in the greatest need, with the steepest odds against ever being adopted is not just a matter of being unfair to gay and lesbian couples, it's a matter of outrageous disservice to children.  In difficult economic times, not only are more children likely to face losing their homes due to being removed on the grounds of "neglect" (often resulting from parents' extreme poverty), but fewer people are likely to step up and sacrifice some of their family budget to bring in another child on a temporary basis.  This is no time to be rejecting possible homes for kids who need them, on the basis of blind homophobia.

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Comments

 

Sheri said:

I just can't wrap my mind around why some people feel that gay parents aren't good for kids.  Or why they wouldn't make good foster parents???

I don't feel anyone's sex life is any of my business.  

February 25, 2009 11:05 AM
 

Featheren said:

In my town, one prominent gay couple has adopted 5 children, most of whom were born to wome in poverty and/or with drug/alcohol addictions. Those five children now have a great life, in a nice home with two loving parents. Furthermore, they all now have very positive prospects for the future.

Five lives saved...can't these other states see the value in this?

February 25, 2009 11:21 AM
 

cnoelk said:

As if having no parent is preferable to having non-traditional parents? This is just appalling.

February 25, 2009 11:27 AM
 

Shannon LC Cate said:

Anecdotally, I know one gay male couple who adopted a sibling group of three from foster care: two African American boys and their sister, aged 2, 6 and 8.  I know a handful of single gay men who have adopted boys over 8 from foster care, most of them racial minorities.  These are kids whose odds of being adopted are unmeasureably small.  As far as I'm concerned, gay men are the hero parents of our society.  They have so few options to become parents.  This is the one most often available to them--because these are kids very few people want to adopt.  It's heartbreaking to think that the handful of kids who might have had loving dads will now age out of foster care into probably poverty, possible crime, and other risks for kids without solid family ties.

February 25, 2009 11:28 AM
 

Melissa said:

I couldn't agree more with all of your comments.  And I hate that this is my state we happen to be discussing.  We get a grade of F in everything from women's reproductive issues to children's healthcare to same sex marriage and now this.  Please keep in mind we don't all think this way; some of us are forward-thinking.  And thanks to you, Shannon for always speaking out on the issues that matter to you and so many others.  I really enjoy your blogs.

February 25, 2009 11:37 AM
 

Knitty said:

Good thing there are plenty of qualified homes looking for children with extensive social and emotional problems to welcome into their families!  And foster care pays well enough to cover all the expenses of caring for these needy little ones!  We can totally afford to come up with bullshit bigot reasons to ban a few of them from the system.

February 25, 2009 1:02 PM
 

Twyla said:

I guess if parents don't want their children being raised by a gay or lesbian couple, they should work harder to keep their kids. It's not like anyone has ever proposed to take kids from a good loving home and give them to an environment the original parents disagree with. (Not that it would not also be good and loving.)

February 25, 2009 1:35 PM
 

Treespeed said:

Wow, nothing like creeping religious bigotry trumping the welfare of needy childrn.  

February 25, 2009 1:49 PM
 

Manjari said:

This makes my blood boil.

I love the picture here. What a great looking family!

February 25, 2009 3:58 PM
 

Shannon LC Cate said:

Thanks, Manjari, that's my family!  (when my older daughter was a baby)

February 25, 2009 4:12 PM
 

Manjari said:

Oh, so that's how you were able to get a picture of lesbians with actual heads! :)

February 25, 2009 4:16 PM
 

Knitty said:

Shannon, your family is beautiful.  Thanks so much for sharing that photo.

February 25, 2009 5:25 PM
 

Marken said:

I know that you and Cate are great parents and I was so excited when you told me that ya'll had found a sweet baby girl to adopt.  It baffled me then and it still baffles me that any adoption agency or state CPS would consider ya'll the absolute ideal as foster or adoptive parents if Cate was Charles or you were Shane.  I honestly don't get why gender should matter.

February 25, 2009 5:30 PM
 

Sue said:

I have very definite ideas about how children should be raised, and that's why we adopted 7 special needs kids of multiple ethnicity, because we wanted to make a difference. Whenever I hear people of my faith condemn gay foster/adoption, my only response is, "Then let the Christians adopt all the needy children, so there won't be any more for those you don't approve of."

Weelllll ( I hear too often), they have "their own" children to think about and "maybe someday" they will adopt...

Then you have no right to an opinion on the matter. But it's easy to point fingers, no matter what. I find it's better to just do what I believe to be right, and let the rest sort itself out.

I didn't know that was a picture of your family. Total cuteness!

February 25, 2009 11:13 PM
 

Shannon LC Cate said:

If you really want to confuse them, Sue, let 'em know WE'RE Christians too.

February 25, 2009 11:17 PM
 

Sue said:

ROFL Shannon, I shall.

February 25, 2009 11:27 PM
 

Knitty said:

You adopted seven special-needs children, Sue?  That settles it.  You are officially my hero.

February 26, 2009 2:27 AM

About Shannon LC Cate

Shannon LC Cate, PhD is a lesbian housewife and work-from-home mother of two girls via domestic, open, transracial adoption. They are both under five and already too brilliant and beautiful for their own good. Shannon lives, writes and assembles tricycles in Chicago, Illinois.

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