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I would be furious like this girl's parents, too!  If he was so concered, then he needed to call the parents and explain that he had concerns, and bring the parents and girl in for a meeting.  I feel terrible for this girl... not only was she embarassed by her counsler, but she's also the subject of a rumor.  

No, I'd rather my twelve year old end up hiding her pregnancy and throwing the baby in a trash can!  Uh, DUH!  Hello?  Adults should act when they see or hear something that isnt quite right.  When I was in high school a classmate "found out" she was pregnant at like 8 months along (although I could certainly tell months earlier).  All the adults who should have done something -- like ensuring proper prenatal care at the least -- did nothing.  And, it is because of stories like this.  School officials, guidance counselors and other concerned adults are forced silent for fear of being sued!  RIDICULOUS!

Stephanie, there is a difference between an appropriate, professional level of compassionate concern and involvement and FORCING a minor child to take a medical test (because that's what a pregnancy test is, regardless of whether or not it's available over the counter).

If this were my kid I would be livid.  

However, when we set up the schools to serve as "in loco parentis" for our children, when we expect the school system to raise our children more and more every year, what do we expect?

Stories like these make me want to homeschool.  

Amy @ prettybabies.blogspot.com

Stephanie, that is crazy! If the counselor was concerned, he should have notified her parents, not given her a pregnancy test! THEY could have gave the girl the test, not a school official. In a case like this, the man should be sued! Just because one girl's parents (or the adults around her) that you know weren't responsible or smart enough to figure out the girl was pregnant does not mean every school official should have the right to demand random pregnancy testing. That is ridiculous and stupid.

What if this girl was pregnant and the counselor called home to an abusive parent? How about an incestuos parent? The details are hazy at best but I think that, while over zealous, the counselor should not be teh target of a lawsuit.

Stephanie... you really think the choice is here a forced pregnancy test administered to a little girl or a baby in the trash can?  Really?  No, I don't buy it.  Go troll elsewhere, please.

Obviously he didn't approach her gently or professionaly.

I don't care what any of you say. I personally know "said counselor" and find these allegations totally ridiculous. He's not the kind of person to force someone into taking anything. This man even takes time off his weekends to donate bikes to charitable organizations. I personally know this as a student of Seven Hills.

I think it is just down right ridiculous what this guy did to this little girl. My god the school systems for these kids are getting worse and worse every year what next strip searches. I have a liitle girl and if she were 12 I would be down right furious and I would with no doubt in my mind be taking leagl action for the embrassment and humiliation of my daughter. Only a doctor or parent should be allowed the right to administer such a test to a child not the school maybe.In my opinion I think that pregancy test should start being sold behind the counter.

I don't know if I'd be suing or anything, but if I had been the kid's parent, I'd have preferred the counselor talk to me and let me talk to my daughter.  If I were concerned I could take her to the doctor.  This would have made me pretty dang uncomfortable.

I have to agree with the outraged parents.  I have a 15 year old daughter in high school, and if this happened to her I think it would take alot of restraint on my part not to go physically hurt this man for humiliating my child.  As a guidance counselor he should have had the sense to maybe, I dont know, "counsel" the child if he really felt the rumors had merit.  The absolute next step would have been to call the parents, and let them decide if they want to test the child. If the counselor feared that there was an abusive home situation, he could have determined that by counseling the child first, before deciding to call the parents.  There is no situation, (except for possibly by the childs request), was testing her an acceptable solution to his concerns!!!

First of all let me say Seven Hills Middle School is a great school.  It is a top notch academic school.  My daughter went there last year and heard ALL about these rumors.  The so-called 12 year old was almost 14 yrs old.  She is NOT a "good" girl.  She has quite a reputation. She has been expelled numerous times for fighting and promiscious behavior.  That is a fact.  The whole family is disfunctional. She has a horrible attitude and hates the school and teachers.  She says she's an honor student thats another lie.

I have to question the intelligence of the counselor to act so rashly based on a rumor. The girl is 12, in middle school there are always "she is pregnant" rumors going around. It would be one thing if this girl had come to him in confidence, knew she was sexually active even, anything. But to hear through the grapevine? And not call her in or better still have a conference with her and her parents. He tells her to take a pregnancy test? To prove the rumors aren't true I assume. They would be testing girls all day everyday if a rumor is the only thing they have to go on.

You all are crazy, You don"t know "said counselor" and have no right to judge the situation. I am a former student of his and he acted as my counselor when I was attending Seven Hills. You need to look at both sides all you are hearing is the parents side and as you all should know 12 year old girls lie to their parents when they don't want to get in trouble. This is an unfortunate situation but for you all to condemn the counselor is pure ignorance on your part.