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Is It Wrong for Parents to Sell Girl Scout Cookies for their Daughters?

In this not exactly neighborly modern world of ours, eight-year-olds in Girl Scout vests are much less likely to go door-to-door pedaling Thin Mints and Somoas than they once were. So how do 200 million boxes of Girl Scout cookies still get sold every year? Their parents, of course!

CNN reports that parents are increasingly relying on their jobs and connections to make cookie sales for their daughters, who then get the credit. Opinion is divided as to whether this is simply a sensible, safe way to get the cookies sold—supporting a good cause and satisfying America’s sweet tooth—or whether this deprives young girls of the intended lessons of cookie-selling, not to mention creating an unfair playing field in which girls are punished or rewarded for their parents’ success.

It seems clear to me that parents selling cookies when their daughters aren’t even present is not right (and it goes against the recommendation of the Girl Scouts organization).  Although, come to think of it, I’d probably still buy a box if I was hungry and had five bucks on me....which just shows how wrong it is for parents to exploit a national addiction like that.

But I used to buy all my annual Girl Scout cookies at work, and I couldn’t have been happier about it. My coworker walked around the office with her daughter, who shyly and sweetly did all the talking. I was always grateful for both the distraction and the sugar fix. I mean, who doesn’t want to buy a box of thin mints from an adorable eight-year-old? (And then eat half the pack while slowly blinding yourself in the eerie glow of computer screens and neon lights…but I digress.)

If it had been my boss’s daughter going around selling cookies, then the dynamic would have been more problematic. What employee is going to refuse to buy cookies from the boss’s daughter? This means that girls with parents in more powerful positions are more likely to sell more cookies—and, alas!, even Somoas play a part in perpetrating social inequality.

Perhaps the most ethically unquestionable and effective way to sell cookies is to have girls set up a booth in a public place. This way, they’re doing the work themselves, they’re not in any danger, and they’re offering passersby a very important public service.

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Comments

 

Khrystena said:

I am almost 30 and I can recall my friends doing this in school. You knew the top sellers were the ones whose parents had coworkers and were able to go around for them. Nothing has changed

February 6, 2009 10:38 AM
 

Laura said:

Same here, Khrystena. It was unfair then, it's unfair now. I didn't have parents in powerful positions at all, and I used to go around the nearby streets selling cookies (to people who were not our neighbors -- we didn't know them). I still think that it was a "character-builiding" experience, and mom was always with me, so it wasn't dangerous. I still laugh at the memory of the guy who slammed the door in my face and said, "No, no, not tonight!" Ah, girlhood.

February 6, 2009 10:54 AM
 

MsC said:

I really don't see the big deal here.   Every working parent I've ever known, regardless of gender, brings their kids various fund-raising flyers to work, puts them in the break room, and people who want to support and/or eat delicious cookies sign up.   My mom did the same thing when we were kids.

Now, if the parents are strong-arming underlings or clients into supporting their kids' activities, that is indeed not good.  But this seems very tempest in a teapot.

February 6, 2009 11:08 AM
 

Tal said:

When I was a Girl Scout, our troop sometimes would set up a table to sell cookies at a grocery store. I think that's the best idea too- then the girls can be in a public place with their parents, but the parents aren't doing all the work for them, so it's equal.

February 6, 2009 11:50 AM
 

another_mom said:

Who is the Girl Scout here, the parent or the child?  Let the kids do their own selling. I won't buy Girl Scout cookies from an adult.

February 6, 2009 12:23 PM
 

leahsmom said:

Speaking from purely selfish considerations, my only access to Girl Scout cookies comes from my boss' daughters so I say screw the ethics - I want my thin mints! ;)

February 6, 2009 12:46 PM
 

EG said:

I want a Samoa NOW.

February 6, 2009 1:20 PM
 

km said:

Hannah--I'm jealous you got Girl Scout cookies as soon as you paid for them.  I've always had to order them and then wait until I forgot about them and then they would eventually show up.

Oh, and that samoa picture is killing me.  I think the drool is going to short out my keyboard.

February 6, 2009 1:46 PM
 

Maureen said:

I think that part of the problem is that kids just don't go door to door selling anymore.  I used to peddle my campfire girl candies myself around the neighborhood.  I sold a lot of candy and felt proud of myself.  But somewhere along the way, this practice seemed to stop... at least in my neighborhood.  I don't know what I'll do when my daughter is old enough to be a girl scout.  Is it fair when someone works for a company where they can sell cookies for their kid?  Maybe not, but it is raising money for this organization and there are many other learning opportunities for these girls with other activities.

My niece sold cookies to me this year, and I would have bought them even if she wasn't my niece... I'm a sucker for any kid who tries to sell me something.

February 6, 2009 2:21 PM
 

Sue said:

I bought GS cookies from girls who set up a card table in our local grocery store. One of the moms was there and although they had a big sign and were wearing their uniforms, there was no pressure (except from my lack of self-control). What I intensely dislike is being accosted out in front of a store or in a parking lot by children taught to yell at me as I enter and exit.

February 6, 2009 6:15 PM
 

LaLaLaLa said:

I sold GS cookies - and was a top seller (#3 in my state, and it wasn't a small state either)

My mother would drive me to areas of town and keep an eye on me, but that was the extent of her involvement. I got the bright idea of going to the college campus and setting up a small table in front of the cafeteria and also hit the dorms... and it was all me schlepping the boxes and order forms.

I was more proud of the work I did than of the prizes won, and it taught me quite a bit about being polite, selling a product and developing a solid work ethic and built self-confidence.

I absolutely refuse to buy any fundraiser items from the parents that bring their kid's forms - the kids don't really do anything anymore, and I think it's tacky and lazy of the parent to do the work. If the parents today want to do everything for their little darlings, then that is something they will have to deal with probably for the rest of their lives - since the little darlings will grow up to expect others to always take care of their commitments and still reap the recognition and rewards.

February 9, 2009 12:30 AM

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Hannah Tennant-Moore is a Brooklyn-based freelance writer whose work has appeared or is forthcoming in Best Buddhist Writing (2008); The Sun; Guantanamo: Inside the Prison, Outside the Law; Tricycle; Turning Wheel (as the winner of the Young Writers Award); and elsewhere.

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