“Guest blogger Gina” (I can’t see any other authorial designation) says, “I don’t consider it cheating — and when he finally got his ‘massage,’ I was happy for him!”
A few years ago an unmarried friend told me that he had gotten a “full release” massage. (If you don’t know what this means, let’s just say that it’s a massage where the masseuse goes below the belt, applying her hands to the man’s “twig and berries.”) He was unattached at the time, and therefore wasn’t cheating on anyone. See, I thought, and he agreed, that if a guy in a relationship did this, it would be cheating.
In the interest of equal time, women can also get happy endings on the table. Leslie Adler from the Vuv Club (a blog) wrote that, “the Dreamy Diddle” is not cheating. Her reasoning? “You go to the gynecologist, right? And he or she doesn’t even kiss you first and look at what you let them do to you.”