Strollerderby

How about just leaving a comment on her blog that you disagree?  This feels kind of unecessarily catty. Unless there's some kind of Babble / Cookie cross promotion and you're just trying to drive traffic..... ;-)

If Crabmommy doesn't want to hear what parent's think of their own kids, maybe she shouldn't go around giving her unsolicited opinions. Anyways, I hardly see how "Yes, we got a good one" is all that smug. I've said the same thing, and what I mean by it is that I'm thankful the Spitfire has all of her digits and is reasonably bright, happy, and healthy, as it can so easily not turn out that way. It sounds to me like she's running out of things to be crabby and write about.

I don't think it's smug at all.  I complimented someone on her son, and she replied that she got lucky with him. I think the point she was making was that she couldn't take all the credit for raising him to be the delightful, polite, smart 6 yr. old he was at the time. I probably would have taken "we got a good one" the same way. The only thing I can imagine is that maybe there was a facial expression or tone of voice that made that comment seem different than it does in writing.

Unless she said, "WE got a good one!" while looking down her nose at the compliment giver's child, I don't see anything wrong with the response. I'd probably say the same thing, meaning that we're lucky to have such a great kid. Why act ungrateful when you love your kid and think he/she is great?

OK, I just went and read the whole article... and I still don't see what the other mom did wrong, except for not complimenting crabmommy's kid in return. It would've been a nice thing to do, but a compliment is like a gift- you give it because you want to, not because you expect something in return.

...and after reading the comments, I still can't figure out what response would actually have worked for her...

Can I say, "we like him"? Or would that imply that I have a right to like him more than you're allowed to like your kid?

I have to agree that Crabmommy's article was one of the dumbest things I have read in a long time. There was nothing smug at all in what the other mom said. Moms are already being judged way too much, now we are also judged by not giving the exact response crabmommy wanted.

I never know how to respond when people compliment my daughter. "Thanks - she came that way?"  

Whatever. I will brag and boast about the kid as much as I want. She rocks.

Crabmommy is running out of stuff to bitch about so she's searching high and low for perceived slights. The only rude element in this entire exchange is her completely uncalled for blog post. Whatever. I won't be reading Crabmommy in the future. She's "jumped the shark."  

I agree with your post. Crabmommy's response is so insecure and small. There's too much of that already.

I totally agree. And your post was hysterical..." she's a total asshole at home..." Ahhh, the many times I would have loved to say that.

I agree, she's run out of material but still has two blogs to fill, so now any little innocuous comment made by another mother is fair game for bitchery.  That whole post was just so petty and stupid.

From the time a child can talk, we parents teach them to say "please" and "thank you."  These two simple phrases are the cornerstone and foundation of a lifetime of using excellent manners.  Therefore, any compliment can be received with a simple "thank you."  The conversation can then be turned to the other party.  Easy!

To the mothers on this site who have responded that their children "rock" and they can boast about them ad infinitum....

Isn't it in the best interests of our children and society that we teach them humility and modesty?  We can certainly love them fiercely but a healthy mix of that love and powerful discipline can only serve to produce children who someday become responsible, generous, hard-working citizens.  Let's enjoy our children without losing sight of the big picture.