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Counseling Over Transgendered Third Grader

Posted by Kelly Mills
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When a third-grade boy in Pennsylvania decided to transition to being female, his parents asked the school for assistance with peer acceptance. The school consulted with experts on transgender children and asked a school counselor to hold sessions with 100 third graders to explain why their classmate would be taking a different name and wearing female clothing. The idea was to help the kids with acceptance and to prevent them from saying mean things. 

So what's the kerfuffle? I bet you can guess. The school sent letters to parents the day before the sessions informing them of what would be happening. And clearly the parents need the counseling more, because while both the guidence counselor and the mom of one of the boy's friends say the kids are pretty cool with the whole thing, the adults are irate. One wrote an interesting and critical commentary of the school, saying, "Introduction of sexual abuse prevention programs over the years should have taught these educators that most parents like to have a say in all aspects of their children's sexual education--particularly one that could be controversial." Is this sexual education? I guess it is in one biological sense of the word 'sex', but it seems to me it's more about diversity, communication, basic decency, and not being an asshole just because your parents are. Then again, I live in California, which the author of the commentary seems to think is nut-land.


Comments

 

Florencia said:

Kelly, did you listen to the piece on All Things Considered (NPR) about two little boys who felt like girls and the very different approach their parents took, etc? It was so moving, so sad, and I guess a bit hopeful as well. Do you think this is too heavy for The Poop? I'd love to see a post about this issue there.

May 13, 2008 6:45 PM
 

Manjari said:

Marybeth Hagan's commentary stopped being interesting near the end when she suggests that the child is in need of prayers and should be home schooled. She should get lost.

May 13, 2008 7:01 PM
 

Treespeed said:

It seems a bit early to put the whole school through reeducation just because a couple of kids are confused about their identity. Are they going to start doing this for every confused kid in Junior High. Seems a bit self indulgent to me.

May 13, 2008 7:02 PM
 

Cassie said:

It is nice to see some schools take these issues seriously.  Transgenderism (?) is a part of life and it was the right thing to go public so the kid would have an easier transition.  It is a very common condition really.  I see hemaphordite children on waiting child adoption lists all of the time, I am sure a few of them had to switch later on.  They are usually raised as a girl but sometimes that is the wrong choice for the child.  Being transgender is not being confused. This is a big deal for the kid and the other children.  They need to understand so there is no bullying or harassment.  Ignorance breeds contempt.  If it were your child Treespeed you would not feel it is self indulgent.  They have a right to attend school like everyone else.

May 13, 2008 7:41 PM
 

Treespeed said:

Cassie, we don't teach sex education in third grade and I think it's ridiculous to saddle elementary school age kids with gender issues. Isn't that what everyone is always going on about in this blog to stop shoving traditional gender stereotypes down kids' throats. My daughter wears mostly boy clothes to daycare and we don't have to have a meeting about it.

While I agree that for most folks gender identity is formed very early it seems a little too early to start making such a big deal about it. I seriously doubt that having an assembly about the topic is going to nip all the bullying and harrasment in the bud.

May 14, 2008 1:47 PM

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