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Strollerderby Playdate: Hippos and Bleach and Babies, Oh My.

Posted by Adrienne Martini

I just got back from a swing through Southern Cali with Beckey from Hippo Brigade. We dished about cleaning supplies and sunned on the beach. It was awesome. Beckey, however, is on the horns of a dilemma. Maybe you can help her out.

She's trying to decide if one kid is enough. It's a tough call, made even tougher by the whole personal nature of the whole thing. The only advice I could give her was that the Husband and I knew that if we had one, we'd have two. There was brief talk of a third -- but that was before we had the second and realized that we just aren't comfortable with being outnumbered. Also, after kid number two's birth, I swore that I would never, ever do that again.

How about you? How did you decide how many to have? Or are you still deciding?

 

Photo credit: Rebecca Brumfield 


Comments

 

Cassie said:

I think everyone should adopt at least once.  There are million of babies and children waiting all over the world for a mom and dad.  They deserve it too.  So I say at least two kids for everyone. One birth child if possible, so you can say you did and then adopt a child or baby from a third world nation.  It is the most wonderful experience.

April 21, 2008 11:58 AM
 

SussLW said:

My plan is like yours: definitely two (hopefully) and a third if we feel we're up to it.

April 21, 2008 2:04 PM
 

g8grl said:

Posted also at the Hippo Brigade:  

I had two because I am an older single mom and all the cousins of my kids are much older. I wanted them to have family. It’s been wonderful. There is nothing better than watching my daughter make faces to get her younger brother to laugh. When they laugh and giggle together, it lightens your heart and lengthens your lifespan. Just my opinion but if you’re enjoying one, you’ll probably have a blast with two

April 21, 2008 3:17 PM
 

Chelsea said:

I thought that having 2 step children and one that I gave birth to was going to be enough for everyone.  Then we got pregnant with our now 8 month old baby girl and she fits into our family so well that I don't know what we would have ever done without her.  So even if you are content with just one, number 2 might just be the best surprise ever!

April 21, 2008 3:21 PM
 

Treespeed said:

For some of us baby #2 could easily break the bank, living in Los Angeles Public School is just not an option. So it would be double daycare and the double private school. Maybe some folks can come up with an exta $12k a year, but my wife and I would like to be able to retire someday.

I think it's better that some of us know that one is enough. And while it would be nice to adopt (as I was adopted) those children aren't any cheaper than the biological ones. It seems strange that there's nothing wrong with suggesting someone have another child, but it's the pinnacle of rudeness to suggest that someone close down the baby factory.

April 21, 2008 6:05 PM

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