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Dooce Envy

Posted by Adrienne Martini

Whether you love Heather B. Armstrong or hate her, you can't avoid her. Dooce.com is everywhere, including the august (and not a little bit condescending) pages of the Wall Street Journal, which actually used the phrase "mommy blogs."

The story itself has been dissected to death -- because everything about Armstrong has to be parsed a billion different ways in the blogosphere -- most attack who she is rather than what she represents.

While Armstrong herself is like any other human being with flaws, her online persona is a lightning rod for many of the issues faced by all moms. Is it OK to be mentally ill? Is it acceptable to not be charmed by every last thing your kid does? Can we talk about our experiences without being written off as mere "mommies who blog?" Do profit margins and personal stories contradict each other?

That's what I'd like to talk about, rather than if Leta and Chuck and the new puppy are going to be ruined by dooce or something equally trivial. How about you? 

 


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Comments

 

bleh said:

The phrase mommyblogger makes me want to stab sharp things into my eye.

April 16, 2008 3:53 PM
 

Meg said:

I love Heather's blog, but it's FOR the tales of Leta and the new puppy attacking Chuck... that pic today cracked me up!

April 16, 2008 4:40 PM
 

Dana said:

I got into dooce when I got pregnant...and I went back and read the archive of her entire pregnancy with Leta...and I was hooked.  I think a lot of people who react negatively toward her are simply jealous of her success...wouldn't all of us bloggers love to live off funny posts about our kid and dogs?

April 16, 2008 4:54 PM
 

steffmarcusky said:

Who? I can say that I have no idea who she is. I don't read any parental blogging other than Babble. And I don't mean that in a wink, wink, isn't Babble the best way, either.

April 16, 2008 8:06 PM
 

Susan said:

There are several things I hate about dooce.com (ie, the blog,not Heather Armstrong):

- the monthly letters.  Don't most parents stop referring to their child's monthly age after 2 years?  Gawd, woman.  Give it a rest.

- the chumminess with all the other famous bloggers (jealous much?  Leave me alone.)

- the skin cancer and its attendant paranoia.  Not that melanoma ain't a heartache, just imo we've heard enough.  Again - in. my. opinion.

Reasons I love dooce -

- her great attitude/relationship with Leta The Devil Child

- her honesty about her journey to and through mental wellness

- shit, the woman can string words together like nobody's business.  I must put them in my head.

April 16, 2008 10:01 PM
 

Adrienne Martini said:

Susan - great list and I totally agree.

April 17, 2008 8:22 AM
 

Kristin said:

Well, Susan, as someone who, because of Dooce's ever-present references to her skin cancer, got to the doctor after reading her posts, I'd have to respectfully disagree with you.

I hope she keeps that up and never stops.  Had it not been for her writing about that, I would have thought nothing of that little mark on my collarbone that was actually cancer.  So yeah, I GET IT, she talks about it a lot.  But not everyone reads the archives, so I'm glad she references it because it might not make a difference to you, but to some people, it does.

April 17, 2008 10:33 AM
 

Susan said:

Not sure what you're disagreeing with, Kristin.  I just said it bugged *me*!  I made no call for her to stop writing about it.

In all seriousness, though, I hope your cancer never returns.

April 17, 2008 9:29 PM
 

Maeby said:

I've been reading Dooce for about 4 years now and i think shes wonderful! I love that she sheds her personal light on topics some women are too uncomfortable to talk about. I think it's refreshing.  its not like she hides behind her blog either she comes to sxsw and talks about it too.

April 18, 2008 10:01 AM

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