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Babble Ethics: Kidnapping for the Better

My wife and I were watching a movie Saturday night, and without giving away the plot for those who haven't seen it yet, I'll say that in the end, "Gone Baby Gone" comes down to making a horrific decision. So in this edition of Babble Ethics, I'll take the critical decision in question and ask:

If you knew someone had kidnapped a child but would give her a much, much better life than the child's horribly neglectful, drug-abusing mom, would you call the cops and return the kid to her rightful mother? Or just stay quiet and let the kid have a chance at a better life with the family that kidnapped her?


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Posted Apr 14 2008, 10:02 AM
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Noell said:

We watched this movie last night...so sad. It was very interesting the way they played the moral decision. I could see both sides, but some people just really shouldn't be parents. I was sobbing when they took the little girl away and gave her back to her mother. I don't understand why Casey Affleck's character felt the need to be so noble, as if he was the most moral person ever. It made me sad to think that even though the movie was not real, their are children all over in the same situation or worse...

April 14, 2008 10:35 AM
 

PinkyT said:

First off I can't believe Noell just gave the ending away.  It's a GREAT movie!

I watched the movie and I think for me I would keep quite.  Whatever is in the best intrest of the child, even if it means breaking the law a "wee" little bit.

April 14, 2008 11:08 AM
 

AllisonWonder said:

I loved this movie, though parts were difficult to watch. At first I thought for sure I'd leave her, but I changed my mind. It wasn't about the rules, or the law. I could never live with myself if I left a mother never knowing what happened to her kid- even a bad mother. Can you imagine your kid disappearing and never knowing what really happened to her? No one deserves that.

April 14, 2008 12:38 PM
 

Kim said:

I disagree with PinkyT. Taking away someone's child is not breaking the law a "wee" little bit. It's breaking the law a lot.

I also watched this movie over the weekend. Loved it, despite the heart-wrenching dilemma at the end. Artistically, I think I understand that the director wanted to drive home the point that who we are is defined by the things we don't choose... including being born to really bad parents. Practically, I  think the movie showcases the gaps in our under-funded child welfare systems. That child should have been removed from the negligent parent a long time ago and placed with competent foster parents---maybe even with parents like Morgan Freeman's character. The mom could have been helped, both to treat her addiction and teach her to be a better parent, and to monitor the child's safety. Maybe she never would have succeeded, who knows? But I certainly don't envy the people who have the job of making those decisions every day: do I rob this mother of her child? or give her another chance? or protect this child by giving her to strangers?

The real villain in the movie was the brother. Come on: your sister lets her child roast in a car for 2 hours, and you didn't tell anyone??? What's the deal???

April 14, 2008 12:44 PM
 

Crazy Baby Lady said:

Leave the child. She would have been much better off. how much different would it have been if the child was rightfully adopted? It's a better choice than having a child end up neglected or dead.

April 14, 2008 1:05 PM
 

steffmarcusky said:

wow - I don't need to watch the movie now.

April 14, 2008 11:09 PM
 

maeby said:

i would stay quiet. her mother decided she was not a mother when she neglected her and continued to use drugs. she obviously doesnt want her. why not give that baby a chance? If she stays with the mom she'll more than likely end up just like her.

April 15, 2008 3:53 PM

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