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Keep Kids From Messing Up Your Sex Life

Posted by Kelly Mills

tubby sexBy way of the Huffington Post, we now have some tips for ensuring your kids don't ruin your sex life. I'm a little underwhelmed. Guess what is number one? Take out your knives co-sleepers, because the top tip is: Separate beds. Now, I'm not even a family bed kinda gal, but I do know you can have sex in more places than just a bed at nighttime. But maybe group slumber does inhibit the nasty--you can let me know.

Other tips mostly center around making sure everyone gets enough sleep; setting aside couple time in the form of the adult-only vacation and regular date nights; and keeping arguments over discipline and such out of the bedroom (unless you are talking about the other kind of discipline and that happens to be your thing.) Nothing too revolutionary here, though the date night thing always irks me. I know we enjoy date night so much we decided to make it an annual event. I mean, does anyone actually manage to do this with real regularity? The cost of babysitting and a movie or a meal alone necessitates we dip into the kid's college fund. But hey, maybe you regularly do a night out with your sweetie, or even your spouse, so I'll suspend my total disbelief in case scientists discover the rare couple who does this all the time. 


Comments

 

crunchy said:

we keep wanting to do date night..but yeah..unless it is an overnighter the sex thing is still going to be hindered by kids unless we do it in the car.

I am 38 and not as limber as I used to be.

We tend to just go for a 'session' when the kids are distracted by say movies or video games!

February 11, 2008 3:45 PM
 

traceasaurus said:

I agree with "do it when our daughter us busy..." I suppose it's easier for our sex life since we both work from home, and therefor can take advantage of the afternoon hours. We also co-sleep! And you know what, my husband falls asleep on the couch 95% of the time so even if my baby was in her crib dead asleep, I'd be sexless.

I don't understand why "keeping your sex life alive after children" is such a hot topic, seriously it's not that hard people.

February 11, 2008 5:08 PM
 

mcglory13 said:

I'm stuck at the "make sure everybody gets enough sleep." As soon as one of those baby sleep books actually works we'll get right on that...  

February 11, 2008 5:20 PM
 

erika1033 said:

Hey, I have no children, but I frequently watch my bosses children because they're pretty religious about having a date night every Thursday night. It IS being done, just thought I'd let you know it's not impossible. (They have two boys, 4 and 7.)

February 12, 2008 12:41 PM
 

Chicory said:

we have a date night once a month.  My parents decided that once a month they'd have all the grandkids (as of right now, only two little girls) over for a Grandparent's Night sleepover.  The kids do things they never get to do at home (like stay up till 10) and we get a whole afternoon, night, and morning to do whatever we want.

Mostly, we sleep.

February 12, 2008 4:57 PM

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