Another possible nail in the abstinence-only sex education coffin: Researchers have found possible troubles for both folks who lose their virginity early and people who hold out in cold-shower land for a long time. Early "bloomers" were found to have a more risk factors for STDs, like many partners and a history of drunken sex. However, both early and late starters had increased risk of sexual dysfunction. We don't know exactly why this is so, but researchers said that those who started sex later may "create health risks by impeding development of the emotional,
cognitive, and interpersonal skills that are crucial to satisfactory
sexual functioning and general well-being." See? I was just developing my interpersonal skills in my high school boyfriend's VW Bug, as well as learning that a stick shift in the lower back can really impede your enjoyment of heavy petting.
What is considered "early" and "late" to lose the old virginity? For survey respondents, around 14 was early (hi!), 17 or 18 was average, and 22 or older was late. Now, when I posted before that kids who had sex young were less likely to engage in delinquent behavior (too busy getting their braces stuck together, perhaps) some of you thought it was a lot of hooey. But I will say, is sex among teens the worst thing ever? I'm not saying we want 12-year-olds to be having sex, but late teens, consent, and protection...I don't see anything wrong with that. And yeah, I can see how having a committed young love relationship where you go at it like bunnies could not only keep you too busy to drive drunk and vandalize stuff, but it could also be a place to practice relationship skills you'd use later. Plus, you know, the kids are actually doing it anyway, and have been for years, despite adult opposition.
