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Gen X Dads Do More than Prior Generations, but Is it Enough?

It is unclear whether stay at home daddy-dom is as unusual and newsworthy as it was back in the mid-80s when Michael Keaton made housewives everywhere swoon with his "Mr. Mom" routine (He cooked! He cleaned! He watched soap operas!) but Newsweek's Brian Braiker seems to think so.

The generational differences between our dads and the men doing the daddying these days can easily be summed up by the tasks that are undertaken now with great regularity by daddies everywhere (diaper-changing, school schlepping, bathing)... This group of dads is definitely hands-on.

Thankfully, Mr Braiker states outright that he's "...not asking for a medal" for his childrearing efforts -- a wise move should he ever desire to get laid again in this lifetime.  His observations about generational differences and sex roles are keen and relatively accurate, if somewhat limited by his (assuming here) upper income bracket. 

While it's true that men these day spend more time with their children than prior generations, it is also true that many many women (one of whom wrote an article for Newsweek) still feel (and studies validate) that they are doing the majority of household work, regardless of how much bacon they are or are not still bringing home.  And until that inequity is solved, I'm afraid very few men will be getting medals after all.



 

 


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Comments

 

Whit Honea said:

If it makes you feel better I do at least 60% of the household chores, if not more, while staying home with two small boys and writing for the man 10 hours a day.

I'll take that damn medal.  And the sex.

October 4, 2007 12:31 PM
 

Jonathan the Bellboy said:

That movie is the bête noire of every at home father, even more than the bloody SAHD acronym.

Me: I stay home with my kids.

Idiot: Oh, Mr. Mom!

I don't know how the housework breaks down numerically. My wife can no longer remember where grocery stores keep the milk. I claim I'd wash the floor if it were actually filthy enough to do so. I wash the clothes, she folds 'em.

And I've never held a kid over a bathroom hand-dryer, about the only thing I remember from that picture,

October 4, 2007 6:52 PM
 

Brian Mack said:

Us men don't want medals.  We're trying damn hard and we know we don't have all the answers, but cut us some slack.  If I were to ask my father about 95% of my early childhood, his response would be "I don't know, ask your mother."

Things that I do that my father never even considered:

1. Midnight feedings (pumped breast milk)

2. Diaper changes

3. Give baths every night

4. Story time every day, no exceptions

5. Pick-up and drop-off at daycare (with a 1 hour one-way commute)

I don't ask that anyone honor me.  I will make mistakes, but the involved dads of my generation really don't have many role models to look to from past generations.  My father-in-law's response to rasing kids?  "That's a woman's job."  Yep, that's real helpful advice...

Brian

October 5, 2007 5:05 PM

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