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School Safety Begins with Parents

rightIn light of the terrible Virginia Tech massacre, I (like every parent across this country) have been thinking about school safety. Parent bloggers have also touched on this issue: Charlene of Crazed Parent asks the question no parent wants to ask their child's teacher

A Daily Press article out today suggests that responsible parenting is the key to school safety. The report came from a Pennsylvania-based consulting firm who interviewed educators, administrators, and law enforcement officials on the subject. Overwhelmingly the responses were that parents should stop blaming outside elements (school, single-parenting guilt) and step up to the task of parenting. Said researchers:

Early discipline failures are a primary casual factor in the development of conduct problems. Harsh discipline, low supervision, lack of parental involvement all add to the development of aggressive children.

Another factor—literacy. Researchers found that almost all of the kids in one Utah detention facility couldn't read. Those kids get teased and, well, you can see where the cycle begins.

Is the solution really this simple? Are better parenting and literacy the key to preventing school tragedies? Do Seung Hui Cho's parents bear some responsibility for their son's heinous actions? Feel free to chime in. 

[photo credit: AP/Getty] 

 

 


Comments

 

Lisa said:

Did you read this guys writing?  I have 8th grade students who write better than this college senior majoring in English!!!!

Maybe there is something to the literacy thing after all.

April 18, 2007 5:40 PM
 

ChrisH said:

I don't know, there are some kids who act out, badly, because they have been obviously neglected, in every way that matters (emotionally, psychologically, developmentally)  But then there are some people who have a mental disease.  And I don't mean 'social anxiety disorder,' but actually disease, like one of conditions labelled schizophrenia, for example.  

Its a bit premature, don't you think, to be deciding whether or not this person is from group a or b, given how little we know.

As parents, the best you can do is your best.  Love your kids, that's the only thing you have control over.

April 18, 2007 7:12 PM
 

Karen Murphy said:

His parents are supposedly in the hospital and there were rumors (unsubstantiated) about suicide attempts.  I cannot fathom what it must be like to be the parent of that boy or others like him who commit such inhuman acts.  How devastating.  Blame?  Maybe.  I can only think that it must depend on the situation, on the kids.

Like ChrisH. says, love your kids.  That's all you can really do.

April 18, 2007 9:39 PM
 

HDCS said:

I think it's way outside of anyone here's realm of responsibility to point fingers at this boy's parents. And this young man's problems were likely so deep and complex that it's pointless to speculate on simplistic explanations. Yeah we all want to ask why in order to understand how something so heinous as this could happen. But it's not going to be a simple explanation. We still don't really know why the Columbine kids went non-linear and I don't think we'll ever understand what went wrong with Cho.

April 19, 2007 12:20 AM
 

dei said:

Of course not. Unless they beat him and locked him in a coal shed, they would have been with all the other parents; worried about their son's welfare once they heard the news and waiting at the hospital like all the others. Just imagine hearing of a school shooting, rushing to the hospital for news of your child and finding not only are your worse fears confirmed - they're dead - but that they were the gunman.

There will always be loners; always be depressed kids with mental issues. How would any of us cope with such a teenager, especially when our parenting is subtley blamed for it?

His writing, to me, showed no sign of illiteracy and he was said to be a highly intelligent, near-gifted student when he put his mind to it.

April 19, 2007 5:22 AM
 

Grammy said:

I don't know that literacy is the major problem.  I have a student who is probably gifted but he is the worst terror on this campus.  He is going to do something bad someday and I can't get his parents to listen to me.  He is already in counseling but it isn't making a dent.  He also prefers to be alone.  He wrote a love note to another fourth grader and I was appalled.  He is certainly missing something at home.  However, there are limits of what a teacher can do.

April 19, 2007 12:26 PM

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