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Helicopter Parents Need to Chill

Helicopter parents -- those over-worried people who believe their children require assistance with every little task --  are being advised to ease up.  There is plenty to be afraid of these days and it is understandable that a natural inclination to protect might easily become hovering.

But what is the difference between proper protection and attending to the needs of your children and training stressed out Little Freaks of Capitalism

I think it's time to re-institute healthy neglect -- leaving your children to their own devices.  A little more "Go outside and play!" and less "Would you like to build a radio transmitter with Daddy?"

I think it is quite likely that children allowed the freedom to play with low-tech toys, relax and do nothing, and left free of the flashcards, language and dance lessons and sideline instructions from tight-lipped parents, might in the end find out that freedom and creativity are more satisfying than preschool at Harvard.


Comments

 

mom2bksfinest said:

CrankMama-

Couldn't agree with you more! Even with my young young babies I often feel all this pressure about what they're up to and will it be nursery school or music classes or college applications next!  I often feel this when talking to other parents.  Do you think parents intentionally or unintentionally have a status competition thang going on... this time not with how many cars in the driveway but how advanced their kid is or how great the school they get into is?  Your point really brings back the focus on just letting kids be free, creative and happy... and i guess we all participate in this "helicopter" phenomenom to a degree... for me I guess I'm unsure which is stronger... nature or nurture so I'll just err on the safe side :) but u're post helps me regain prospective and helps me not feel like i fall short because some days we just loaf around the house and draw in the bathtub and laugh! thanks.

January 14, 2007 6:41 PM
 

Strollerderby said:

As we suspected, helicopter parenting is now officially a disorder . Typified by intense over-involvement

January 16, 2007 10:10 PM
 

Strollerderby said:

Have you ever felt your stomach tighten when your baby falls and hits her head? Have you raced in to

February 19, 2007 10:52 PM
 

Strollerderby said:

Have you ever felt your stomach tighten when your baby falls and hits her head? Have you raced in to comfort when your toddler cries over a toy? You may be a helicopter parent , or you just be a normal and semi-worried like everyone else. Either way,

February 20, 2007 11:23 AM
 

Strollerderby said:

It's true. Outside of school, my kids have no friends. Growing up, even though I attended a school miles

June 6, 2007 3:14 PM

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