Today is the Second Day of the Rest of Your Nanny

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girlsGoneChild — Sun, 28 Jun 2009 08:14:36 GMT

Lauren is one of my best friends! She's awesome! Doing all sorts of cool stuff, she is, including working on a documentary!

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Emily — Wed, 24 Jun 2009 15:38:19 GMT

What happened to your last part-time nanny? Lauren, if I recall correctly.

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mindy — Tue, 23 Jun 2009 00:22:29 GMT

I am a mother of four grown children and also work as a professional nanny. It is the best thing to wave and kiss them goodbye and then leave, even if they are crying. Trust me, as soon as you are out of sight they go right back to playing. The doctor that I work for is a wonderful, loving mother. She only has two flaws as a parent: 1. She needs to realize that her baby is going to bump his head (he's 8 months.) 2. She needs to understand that he is not going to die from crying. Before long, Fable won't cry when you leave, she'll just wave bye-bye.

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charlotte — Mon, 22 Jun 2009 22:28:23 GMT

Little Miss Kickboxer went to daycare when she was 10 weeks old--we eased into it, with 2-hour blocks. And I was doing worse than she. Still am, even though, yeah, it rocks to get something done!

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GirlsGoneChild — Fri, 19 Jun 2009 05:12:02 GMT

So I totally took your advice and left this morning after Fable and "Mrs. Doubtfuego" (she's a Guatemalan Mrs. Doubtfire, she's amazing. Truly so out of the movie it's insane) went out for a walk. She ended up sleeping TWO HOURS which is the longest nap she's ever taken by about 1.40 and when she woke was totally stoked to see Mrs. DF.

So THANK YOU all for your advice! You ladies rock.

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Tricina — Thu, 18 Jun 2009 02:51:01 GMT

As a nanny myself, I would just like to say that I approve and I agree. It's hard for every parent, and it breaks my heart to see them so sad too. But it really does get easier every time and they really do learn that mama leaves, but never for very long and she always comes back. It looks like you've found a good one. Hang on to her.

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jessica — Wed, 17 Jun 2009 02:08:47 GMT

agree with jill....i'm a prek teacher and the longer parents linger and try to calm the kids- the worse it gets. parents say they'll stay just ten minutes and i tell them "then she will just be crying ten minutes later when you leave"!!! sounds harsh but true. don't linger. grab your stuff and go! the nanny will thank you for it!

sounds like you are doing an awesome job anyway. good for you getting your stuff done. happy wife, happy life.

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Jackie — Mon, 15 Jun 2009 18:45:17 GMT

Aww, I'm sure it will get better! I feel the same way anytime I leave my little ones...I want to call every five minutes just to check on them. Just in case all hell has broken loose, and they forgot/lost my cell number. Just in case they couldn't possibly get along without me there to provide all of my mommy-wisdom. But of course they're always just fine :) We're Mommies. We worry. It's just what we do!

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Elly — Sun, 14 Jun 2009 21:34:35 GMT

Oh <3, I guess sometimes moving forward is tricky. Hope the transition goes smooth!

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Jennifer — Sun, 14 Jun 2009 00:55:09 GMT

My six month old has not shown any fear of me leaving yet, but I know it is coming. It was a different story with my seven year old. I was the one she preferred since birth, not any one else. Not until she turned about 4. It was a difficult part of life to accept. It was heart filling and heart breaking at the same moment. I would leave with tears some days and with relief of time for myself other days. Wouldn't you know, now she is a Daddy's girl. Your nanny is right. It is necessary for Fable to learn trust in you. That you are going to return. It will build trust an even tighter bond between the two of you. Oh, how babies bring tears, fear and smiles. We learn so much from these little toots.

Cheers

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sarah — Sat, 13 Jun 2009 21:23:48 GMT

ah, i wnated to cry just reading about poor little fable. i have a feeling i'm not going to be very good at the leaving them thing - even if it is good for them! good for you for being able to overcome the heartbreak and getting lots of good work done!

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Janice (5 Minutes for Mom) — Sat, 13 Jun 2009 21:18:02 GMT

oooohhhh girl - feeling it right with you!

Now I have even been traveling without my baby! I HATE it btw. I miss both my kids so much. But I am glad that they are with my hubby and my nanny. Both loving faces who make them laugh. :) But I still travel as little as possible.

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Jasie VanGesen — Sat, 13 Jun 2009 21:17:02 GMT

aw. So glad it's working out...

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Jill — Sat, 13 Jun 2009 17:35:39 GMT

I remember when my son was in daycare and there would be kids that bawled and cried and put on all matter of dramatics as their moms were getting ready to leave. The moms felt so guilty and tried to calm them down, but almost without exception, as soon as they were out of the baby's line of sight, he or she calmed down and was happy as a clam. They learn early how to pull at our heartstrings :-)

Glad you found a good nanny!

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Cate Subrosa — Sat, 13 Jun 2009 15:30:22 GMT

If the crying persists, it can help if the nanny takes Fable out for a quick turn around the block, then when they come back you're gone. Kids find leaving their parents a lot easier that having their parents leave them. (I used to be a nanny myself.)

Congratulations on finding her, she sounds fantastic. And nice one getting all that work done!

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amandashea17 — Sat, 13 Jun 2009 14:24:41 GMT

I'm so glad it is going well. I would kill to nanny for you. Not that I don't love the family I nanny for.

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vicky @ thecitycradle — Sat, 13 Jun 2009 12:49:11 GMT

With every blessing comes a trial. I'm happy you stuck it out! The first time we left the twins overnight I wanted to call and come home 7,895 times... but I didn't. It set up a good pattern of healthiness in our lives. Way to be healthy girl, and way work hard, and good job even though it's tough!