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Not Your Teacher

Remember that one time, or maybe, if you're like me, it was many times, when you accidentally called your third-grade teacher "mom"? I can recall the very first time I did this. I was in fourth grade and mortified, especially because my teacher was a man. He was a man who wore a fanny-pack, if you must know. He was also the North American Cupstacking champion. So anyway, I called my fourth-grade Cupstacking-champ, fanny-pack wearing teacher "mom" and everyone laughed.

 

I went on to call every single one of my teachers "mom" until I graduated from High School, and had I not dropped out of college on my first day, I would have likely called my professors "mom" too. But I digress, I don't have this problem anymore. I don't confuse authority with my mother. I do call Archer by one of the dog's names, sometimes, and vice-versa. But whatever. Archer doesn't seem to mind. 

 

En Route to School

  

I'm the one who minds. I mind that Archer has decided it's cool and kosher to call Hal and me "teacher" and not on accident. On purpose.

 

He seems to think all adults are "teacher" and since Hal and I are (kinda sorta) adults, we get to answer to "teacher" as well. Lucky us. Or not. Being called "teacher" sucks. It was kind of funny for like two minutes, but now it's just annoying. And a little bit creepy. 

 

Archer, not surprisingly, woke up this morning screaming, "Teacher! Teacher! Ahhhhhh! Teacher, up! Hal and I argued over which "teacher" he was referring to before I vollunteered to act as early-morning martyr*. 

 

"I'M NOT YOUR TEACHER! I'M YOUR MOMMY! MOOOOMMMMMMMY! OKAY? MOMMY! I WILL NOT TAKE YOU OUT OF BED UNTIL YOU START CALLING ME BY MY NAME! AH!"

 

Of course, Hal is used to being called "Hal" but even so, he's been just as annoyed as I by this whole "teacher" thing.

 

"ARCHER! I'M NOT YOUR TEACHER! I'M YOUR HAL! OKAY? YOUR HAAAAAALLLL." 

 

I'm trying to understand what the hell happened. Is Archer just trying to spite us on purpose or did he misunderstand his real-life teacher and now think "teacher" is the "aloha" of grown-ups. You're a teacher. I'm a teacher. We're all teachers. Which is kind of true if you think about it, but come on, son. Why can't you just call us "mommy" and "daddy?" Is that such a crazy request?

 

I can only hope that one day Archer, like me, ends up calling all of his teachers, "mom." Just, you know, to achieve some kind of balance. Or it would be awesome to just drop the whole "teacher" thing and go back to the way it was. When life was simple and I got to answer to "mommy."

 

Sniff. 

 

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*Oooo! Good band name!

 


Comments

 

In the Trenches of Mommyhood said:

I feel ya.  After I come home from a long day at work, the last thing I enjoy is having one of my children accidentally call me "Grandma" because that's whom they've spent the day with.

Argghhhhh.

March 10, 2008 10:41 AM
 

mombo said:

Give him a taste of his own medicine. Call him Ernie, Max, Frankie, Sneezenose, Avocado, Sally, Melissa...or all of the above. But don't show him that it gets to you, or you're just teaching him which buttons to push when he wants to get your goat.

March 10, 2008 1:06 PM
 

Sheri said:

I'm laughing now, not because Archer is calling you teacher, but because you've called him by your dog's name.  We have four dogs and I've been known to go down the list before my wee small mom brain figures out who I really am talking to.  Sounds like Archer has found out two things--everyone is a teacher, and if you really want to freak mom and dad out, call them teacher.  He'll grow out of it.  Don't worry.  By the time he is 12 he'll have another name for you when you don't give him what he wants, unfortunately, it won't be teacher.  

BTW, how you feeling????

March 10, 2008 2:42 PM
 

GirlsGoneChild said:

I'm feeling pretty good, actually. Tired mainly but not as crazy-emotional as I was in earlier weeks. Thank you for asking. :)

March 10, 2008 6:29 PM
 

Doppelganger said:

I'm due with baby #2 in a couple of weeks, and I'm already getting my two boys' names mixed up. I've also called Sam (the three-year-old) by the dog's name. Sometimes I call the dog by the cat's name, but so far I've never called Sam by the cat's name. Ah, the vagaries of the human brain.

Oh, but that's not what I meant to comment about. (Sorry, a little bout of the third-trimester dumdums caught me off guard.) About a year ago, Sam seemed determined to call his father anything but "Daddy." For a while, he called him "Truck," which was actually pretty cool. And then he started calling him "Yellow Guy" or "Red Guy" or whatever, based on whatever colour of shirt my husband was wearing. And for a while, he called everyone but me "Po."

Kids are funny. (Remind me that I said that in a couple of months.)

March 11, 2008 3:34 AM
 

LMN said:

If it's any consolation, not on the teacher-side but on the dog-name side, my  mom usually has to go through about six names, including deceased pets, before she gets to mine: "Colleen, I mean Mary Jo, I mean mom, I mean Muffin, Percy - JANE!"

March 11, 2008 9:21 AM
 

Candes said:

Tucker will call Todd "Moooomm" until his brain catches up to his mouth and realizes he's talking to Daddy.

Some days I'm called Mama. It's a weird day when you're no longer Mommy and just "Hey, Mom."  

March 11, 2008 11:44 AM
 

GirlsGoneChild said:

Yeah, I can imagine. Hal and I were talking about that-- how weird it will be when Archer starts calling me "mom" instead of Mommy... I remember my own transition, when suddenly mommy seemed too "young"... I was in fourth grade. I wonder if it broke my mom's heart. I think it will mine.

March 11, 2008 3:06 PM
 

Aline said:

One thing that came to mind when I read this is how many different names do you guys have for Archer? He's used to being called by different things (I love in some of your videos when you call him "dude", it always makes me smile!), and maybe he thinks that "teacher" is just a nickname for adults?

March 11, 2008 5:52 PM
 

GirlsGoneChild said:

Ha! That's a good point! Maybe so!

March 11, 2008 7:00 PM
 

jjlibra said:

my daughter attends the school where i teach and she calls me miss jessica. so i know what you are going through!!

March 11, 2008 10:01 PM
 

Alexa Young said:

HA! That's so funny. The creepy thing for me is that my dad accidentally calls me Vilia (which is my MOM's name!) on a fairly regular basis. EW. Crazier still, today, my MOM called me IRWIN (which is my dad's name)! If you can get past the fact that my parents have crazy names, and all the other completely inappropriate implications, um, it's actually kind of entertaining. Right? RIGHT? So glad you're feeling well, teach. :) XO

OH, PS: Today, I was reading a book to Jack that has a picture of a mom and a dad holding a baby's hands. When I pointed to the mom and asked "Who's that?" he said, "Mommy." Then I pointed to the dad and said, "Who's that?" and he said "The other mommy." That had me laughing for a good five minutes.

March 12, 2008 1:03 AM
 

Roper said:

OK, I figured someone else would ask this, but since no one else has, I must: what is cupstacking?? (And why doesn't it suprise me that a man who wears a fanny pack would do it?)

March 13, 2008 2:53 PM
 

LogicalMama said:

I've only seen teenagers cupstack. Roper, you should check on youtube for some cupstacking videos, there's gotta be some!

My dog's name is TootyBoots and I've called my son that before!

I'll tell you what's more embarrassing than calling your teacher mom-- it's farting loudly in your 3rd grade classroom headed by a nun who asks who it was! When I raised my hand (amongst lots of snickering), she actually asked me "what was that?! (and yes, it was rhetorical, even at that age I knew she knew what it was!)" Of course, I just shrugged my shoulders and then she told me to control myself! I don't think I've ever turned a brighter shade of red!

I'd try calling Archer, student or grasshopper. Or perhaps you should insist that he call you Ms. Teacher and Hal, Mr. Teacher-- so you know who he's requesting!

March 13, 2008 4:35 PM
 

GIrlsGoneChild said:

www.youtube.com/watch

Enjoy, Roper... Enjoy.

(hee.)

March 13, 2008 6:28 PM
 

Valerie said:

My son calls me Papa after he returns from visits to his dad's house.  Hmm.  At least I can assume he calls his dad mommy sometimes to :)

March 14, 2008 5:57 PM

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