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Don't Call Him Daughter

When Archer was a newborn baby, he was often confused as being a girl. I didn't care. I refused to subscribe to the common powder-blue "it's a boy!" newborn attire. He wore pink sometimes and the occasional ladybug onesie (it was cute, okay?) and was thus commonly referred to as "a sweet little girl."

 

Half the time I went along with it. Because who the hell cares? They all look like girls at that age. Or boys. Same diff, right?

 

"She's adorable! What's her name?"

 

"Bob."

 

"Is Bob short for something, or..."

 

"Nope. Just Bob." 

 

But when yesterday a woman told her binky-stealing daughter to "leave the little girl alone and please give her back her pacifier," and was referring to Archer as said "little girl" I got pissed. Because DUH! Does this child look like a girl to you? (Hint: "Hell no!")

 

Barefoot in the Kitchen

 

Unfortunately, for once in my camera-happy-to-the-point-of-complete-annoyance-to-everyone-around-me, I did not take a single photo of Archer yesterday. (He was wearing a t-shirt with a metal-guitar-dude, camo pants and a beanie that said "I'M A FRIGGIN BOY YOU IDIOT!" Seriously.)

 

I know how stupid this probably sounds, especially after my very serious post below, but to my credit, I said nothing. Instead I nodded sweetly to the blind lady and her "annoying little boy" and walked away.

 

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Comments

 

liprap said:

So?  Little girls can wear T-shirts with metal guitar dudes on them, too!!!

Seriously, I get that off and on about my little guy, and he's four.  Part of it is his blond hair, and the fact that it is straight and if it gets a little too long - then people start asking me if their child can have playdates with my little girl.

UGH.

January 11, 2007 7:41 AM
 

jenifer said:

it happens daily to me and yeah my head spins in awe of peoples stupidity. gus has somewhat of a mullet..we are growing it out and its never been cut but it drives me bonkers people ask, finally, after encouragement on my part...when they ask is he a boy or girl i let him answer..he says, "i'm a boy, crazy". heehee. my passive agressive stupid comeback.

January 11, 2007 11:25 AM
 

JaneB said:

Beautiful, pretty, handsome ... it's all gorgeous.  Congrats, you made a gorgeous little boy!

January 11, 2007 12:17 PM
 

BarbaraR said:

When was Mamie was little she'd be dressed in pink head to toe and still we'd get "how old is HE?"  Even last week, with her hair in a ponytail/bun, I got the same thing.  Can't win!

January 11, 2007 12:55 PM
 

whoorl said:

When people call my son a girl (all the time), I just remind myself it's because he's so beautiful. Same with Archer- he's a beauty!

January 11, 2007 8:32 PM
 

Heather said:

yeah, we get people calling Little Moo a boy all the time.  The strange thing is they only seem to do it when she is head to toe in pink.  Put her in blue and everyone says girl!  How freaky are these people?

January 12, 2007 6:55 AM
 

CreativeTypeDad1 said:

People called my daughter a boy when she within the first few months....even when she wore pink.

Whatever.

January 12, 2007 1:09 PM
 

Peter said:

Someone once saw my twins and asked, "Which one's the girl?"  Uhhh, the middle one.

January 12, 2007 3:23 PM
 

Mama22Boys said:

I used to get that all the time with my two boys ... In fact I still do.    The thing that gets me is that my boys are 20 months apart (32 months and 1 year) and there is about a 10 pound difference between the two, and I get a number of people asking me if they are twins.   Um ... huh?

January 12, 2007 8:34 PM
 

Jah RastaYid said:

My boys have been called girls and my girls called boys.  The best response I've found here in the LandofOZ is to laugh and say, "Oh, she is really a he."  Or vice-versa.  The perpetrator usually gets embarassed and apologizes profusely.  Especially if you also offer to remove your child's clothes to prove their sex.

All my kids had lots of hair from day one, but neither the color of the clothing, the length of the hair, or the presence of pants or dresses seemed to make a difference.  People see what they want to see, regardless of obvious appearance.  

Jah

January 14, 2007 12:05 AM
 

Peter said:

"When people call my son a girl (all the time), I just remind myself it's because he's so beautiful."

Very true -- beauty is associated with the feminine.  My lads have taken to calling each other "pretty" -- and me too, when I can sweet-talk them into it.

January 14, 2007 3:00 AM
 

kalimurzino@rambler.ru said:

David

May 27, 2007 10:42 PM

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