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  • And the winner is...

    I know a lot of you were rooting for the underdog -- we were, too -- but it looks like Elsa is going to be the big winner in the Ultimate Walking Challenge. On Wednesday, she suddenly started being able to stand unsupported, and on Thursday, she apparently took a few steps for Jean, our sitter. On Friday, on several occasions, she took three, four, sometimes even five steps toward us, smiling all the while, obviously excited by this new adventure. There were, of course, three times as many failed attempts, where her bottom half couldn't quite keep up with her top half. (Hot tip to would-be walkers: don't forget to move your legs!)

     

    As exciting as it is, each time we've watched Elsa walk -- sitting there smiling and encouraging and reaching out our arms for her -- I can't help feeling a pang of guilt, knowing that Clio is being temporarily ignored. Not that she seems to care in the least. The first time, she clapped and grinned right along with Elsa and the rest of us. It's lovely the way they both seem to take vicarious pleasure in each other's happiness rather than get jealous.

     

    Still, I find myself trying to "even things out" by turning my attention to Clio after it's been on Elsa for a little while; to praise her and play with her and encourage her to try walking, too. (I don't think she's far from it; she's great at standing on her own, and even better than Elsa at squatting down.) I have this fear that at some point she's going to start developing a complex about Elsa always being a step (ha) ahead. But maybe that's just the overachiever in me, projecting. Maybe, in fact, Clio will be happy to hang back and do her own thing while Elsa blazes ahead: You want to start coloring inside the lines, big sis? Hey, that's cool; I prefer to keep things experimental. You want to get your driver's license the day you turn sixteen? Sweet -- you can give me rides.

     

    It's insane how early you can feel these dynamics creeping in. As hard as I try not to pigeonhole or project, I can't help wondering: twenty years from now, after they've taken psych 101 and maybe a creative writing course or two, are they going to come back and accuse me of irreperably messing them up or unfairly shaping their destinies because of how I perceived them and, hence, treated them as infants/toddlers? They'll have this blog for evidence, too! Shit! (Of course, that's a whole other conversation: the revenge of the blogged babies.)

     

    All I know is, it's impossible to treat two babies exactly the same way, because they're two completely different people. And although I love them in equal measure, I love them completely differently -- something I never could have fully grasped before I had them. I just hope that the separate but equal (whoever thought that could be a good thing?) intensity of my love will come through to them, always.

     

     


  • Off-Crib Betting, Anyone?

    I don't know why I didn't think of this sooner. We've got two babies, both striving for the same developmental milestones. We never know who's going to be first to achieve the next one. They're both raised in the same conditions, the same environment. It's one big experiment in nature vs. nurture. So, why not make it a little more interesting, if you catch my drift?

     

    I won't participate, of course, because it would just be wrong for a mother to bet on her own children. The last thing I want is to be known as the Pete Rose of the mommy blogging set. But as disinterested (and perhaps slightly interested?) bystanders, you can get in on the game. 

     

    Ever since they've been pulling up -- starting back in September for Elsa -- people have been saying they'll be walking "any day now." I think they've still got at least a month to go, personally. But who knows. Sometimes developmental progress happens in fits and starts. But the question remains: which twin has the Toni? And by Toni I mean not a bad at-home perm from the 1950s, but the will, the determination, the get-up-and-go to do that which separates man from meerkat: WALK! On two legs. (Meerkats can't do that, can they?)

     

    Before you make your prediction, please take a moment to get to know the contenders, and consider their respective strengths:

     

     

    On the right: Elsa "Give 'em Hell-sa" Margaret Moock

    Eyes: Blue

    Hair: Sedona Dusk 

    Body Type: Tall and sturdy.

    Interests: Nursing, bathing, cat food, Cheerios, peas, puttting blocks into a bucket, climbing stairs, squealing, whacking her sister on the head in glee, postmodernism

     

    History: Elsa has traditionally been the more advanced of the Baby Squared twins when it comes to gross motor skills. She rolled over first, sat up first, started crawling first (7 months) and started pulling up to standing first (8 months). She's a confident cruiser, and has lately been doing a lot of getting up on one knee as if to stand, but hasn't made the final push to independent verticality. She's also gotten much more interested in more sedentary things of late, like cuddling and pointing at pictures in books. So, does she have what it takes to go bipedal? No doubt. The question is, when?

     

    On the left: Clio "O Sole Mio" Rose Moock

    Eyes: Hazel

    Hair: Calistoga Taupe

    Body Type: Compact and tightly coiled

    Interests: Drinking from a cup, sticking tongue out, putting fingers in people's mouths, giggling, Cheerios, bouncing, taking blocks out of a bucket, thrashing, ska, hedge funds

     

    History: Clio has always done things at her own pace, unfazed by the gross motor skill progress of certain other babies and generally preferring to focus on social and verbal skills / bemused observation. But in the past couple of months, she's made great strides in the mobility department. In October, she went from getting up on all fours to zooming around like a little roadrunner within the space of two weeks. She was pulling up by early November. And -- get this -- in the past couple of weeks, she has started letting go once she's up and standing completely unsupported -- at times for as long as 15-20 seconds at a time. Sometimes while clapping, to boot! Clio just might be the dark horse entry in....

     

    THE ULTIMATE WALKING CHALLENGE!!

     

    So, my friends, who will be first to take their first steps? The intrepid Elsa?

     

     

     

    Or the maverick Clio?

     

     

    Mesdames et messieurs, les jeux sont faits!

     



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One baby? Piece of cake. Try two. This working mother gives you the inside scoop on the ultimate in extreme parenting: twins.

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