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  • Regression

    We were doing so well with the whole pacifier weaning thing. Really, we were.

     

    We started using the things with the girls at an early age, following the 5 "S"s school of self-soothing: suck (that's the pacifier), swaddle, shush....um...shit. Swing? Sway? Something to do with movement. And another one. Sambuca?

     

    Anyway, the point is, we were not bashful about giving the girls pacifiers in their early months, especially when trying to get them to sleep. Gradually, we made pacifiers the province of 1. The crib and 2. The car. (And kept them on hand for outings to stores, where they ran the risk of getting antsy.) Lately, the only time they really use them is in their cribs, while they sleep, and we're fine with that for the time being.

     

    But last week, Clio started getting extremely cranky. She was breaking a top tooth (our children are still freakishly toothless for their age: Clio only has 2 teeth and Elsa only has 4), and obviously uncomfortable, running a slight fever, too. So we let the pacifier rules slacken a little and gave it to her outside of her crib. But it got to the point where she was asking for it all the time.

     

    As it turns out, she had an ear infection. Her fever was up at 104.5 on Friday night, which was more than a little disconcerting. She's never had a fever that high before. And -- SPOILER ALERT FOR A 10-YEAR-OLD MOVIE -- ever since I saw that movie City of Angels, with Meg Ryan and Nicholas Cage, I've been haunted by the opening scene, where a toddler gets a really high fever and the mom puts her in a cold bath, then takes her to the hospital, but she ends up dying. (I wasn't even close to being a mother when I saw the movie, and yet it terrified me.) So, we called the doctor and administered medication which, fortunately, worked, and took her to the doctor's the next day. Her right ear was nice and red and full-o-pus.

     

    So, at least we knew what we were dealing with. She's definitely improved since we started giving her antibiotics. However, she's gotten used to having her pacifier now, and still whines for it regularly. And all you mothers of twins out there know what happens when you give one twin something: the other one wants it, too. So, now we've got Elsa jonesing for a pacifier whenever Clio is, which is often. Tonight they were so eager for their pacifiers they begged to be put into their cribs as soon as I got their pajamas on them, just so they could suck on the damned things. I'm hoping that as Clio's ear infection wanes and her tooth comes in we can gradually get her -- and Elsa -- back to their more moderate pacifier usage. Because I'm just not down with this regression thing. My hope has always been that by the time they're two, we can get them off the plastic teat completely. But we'll see...

     

    Meanwhile, at least we are making forward progress on another front: utensils! Here, some snapshots of tonight's fork and spoon training session:

     

    Die, potatoes! Die! Die!

     

     

     Am I left-handed? I don't think I'm left-handed...

     

     

     Hmm...I like the not-so-spiky end of this thing....

     

     

    Is there a reason these things are a better option than my hands?

     


  • The Great Leaps Forward

    It's funny how babies--ours, anyway--seem to make advances in fits and starts. They'll be hanging out on a little developmental plateau for weeks, not doing anything terribly new or exciting, and then all of a sudden, wham! They're a completely different baby.

     

    Take Elsa. Please! (Thank you very much; I'll be here all week.) All of a sudden, she's a babbler. No longer content to gurgle and goo and squeal (oh boy, can that girl squeal), she's started staging long, loud, monosyllabic filibusters: "Buh buh buh ga bah ah ah bah ga ga guh guh da da ba da ba ga ah guh guh buh buh!" And then there's her special pacifier sound, a funny, nasal little speech she makes when she's in her crib with her pacifier in her mouth, which makes her sound like a cross between Popeye and an old Yiddish man: "Goy goy goy goy goy!"

     

    What's even more impressive, though, is how crazily mobile she has become. In the past week, she's gone from slow, casual creeping to seriously intentional, commando-style scooting and proto-crawling -- always in the direction of electrical cords, naturally. She's also suddenly capable of getting up to a seated position on her own, from her back or stomach or all fours. This means that now, when I put her down in her crib to sleep, whether or not she remains lying down is entirely up to her. I'm not sure how I feel about her having this much free will.

     

    In any case, we've had to make some adjustments. Yesterday, I lowered the mattress in her crib, just to be on the safe side. While she's not pulling up yet, I'd rather not have her first attempts at it land her on the nursery floor. And last weekend I gave in and paid a visit to the Superstore That Must Not Be Named for babyproofing supplies. There is now foam on the corners and edges of the coffee table, and a very nifty plastic cover over the power strip in the living room. (Who knew such things existed!) The other day, Elsa made a beeline for it and I watched, chuckling in evil triumph as she failed utterly in her concerted effort to electrocute herself.


    And what of Clio, you ask? Has she been sitting silently, stilly by while Elsa bounds ahead with verbal and gross motor skill advances? Well, sort of. She has started babbling a bit more, and last night I heard her try out the Yiddish Popeye pacifier thing. As for movement, she will occasionally push up onto her hands and knees or scoot a little bit when she's on her tummy, but she seems to be doing it more out of a sense of obligation as opposed to any real desire, like Elsa the Exploradora. Mostly, Clio's perfectly content to sit in one place and flap her arms around or play with a toy and grin, twinkly-eyed, at us, or to lie on her back and play with her feet. Cruising across the floor hell-bent on her own destruction just isn't her thing right now. And that's cool. But we are pretty sure that she's about to beat Elsa to a milestone for the first time any day now: those lower incisors are totally ready to pop.

     

    In other news, I'm very happy to report that since my post in which the girls first slept through the night (or most of it, anyway), they have pretty consistently gone from their 10:30 dream feed through until 6 or 6:30 without needing parental intervention. Elsa still wakes up and cries a little around three or four most nights, but gets herself back to sleep after a few minutes. Clio has awoken with teething pain a few times, but some cuddling and a quick hit of Tylenol generally do the trick. Meanwhile, I'm trying to adhere to a strict I-will-not-come-in-and-get-you-before-6-am policy, because as far as I'm concerned, anything before 6 am still counts as the middle of the night -- a value I want very much to instill in my children. The next big step will be to eliminate the 10:30 feeding. Any tips on how and when to do this -- including how to involve majorly painful engorgement -- from those who've been there are most welcome...
     


  • Damn! I feel like a mother!

    Even as a child, I was awed by my mother's ability to tell if my brother or I had a fever just by touching our foreheads. She could estimate almost to the decimal. Over the years, I've tried to gauge fevers myself, attempting to determine if people -- friends, my husband, myself -- "feel warm" by pressing a palm to their cheeks or foreheads. The problem was, they all felt somewhat warm. It's all relative, right? The only thing I could say with any certainty was that they weren't dead.

     

    But yesterday morning at 4:30 am when Clio was crying and I picked her up to nurse her, I knew instantly that she had a fever. Her feet felt hot. Her head felt hot. She was a little ball of dry, radiant heat. I took her temperature, and sure enough, it was 101. I gave her some Tylenol and held a cool washcloth to her forehead while I nursed her. Fifteen minutes later, she was down to 100, and both of us were able to get another couple hours of sleep. By morning, she was down to 98, and I could definitely feel the difference.

     

    She'd been irritable the day before, with a runny nose and diarrhea (according to the babysitter) and intermittent bouts of inexplicable, vehement screaming. She'd been up twice in the night already, crying, and God, she is a loud baby. I mean, the girl can really wail when she wants to. It's like she's trying to be a parody of a crying baby. Her screams literally sound like: "Waaaaaah!!!!!"

     

    We figured that either she was cutting a tooth, or she had a cold. (Elsa's nose has been runny, too.) So the fever wasn't completely out of the blue. Hence, it did not freak me out. What it did, in fact, was make me feel more like a mother: I know my baby so well, that I can tell by touch that she has a fever. What's next? Eyes in the back of my head? Tapered jeans? (Oh wait, aren't those cool again? Blech.)

     

    It does seem to be when my babies are at their most unhappy and vulnerable that the mothering feeling comes out in fullest force. This makes good, biological/evolutionary sense, I suppose. We had to bring Clio to the emergency room a couple of months ago when she had a weird rash of broken blood vessels on her legs (turned out to be a harmless case of HSP, but our doc told us to take her to the hospital because there was a chance it could be a sign of a bad infection), and it was the first time I didn't feel funny referring to one of my girls as "my daughter." It was the first time I had to take responsibility for someone's health other than my own. And it was also the first time I understood in a visceral, up-close way how losing a child would be the worst kind of pain imaginable.

     

    Back to yesterday: Clio's fever was completely gone by mid-morning, and she didn't seem to be as congested either. I keep looking at her mouth expecting to see the little white tip of a tooth sprouting from her gums, but no sign yet. If she is teething, and the symptoms she had were related, and it's going to go like this time after time until all 20 little choppers are in there -- oh boy. I'm gonna feel like one hell of a mother by the time it's all done.

     

    Incidentally, the title of this post is meant to be a reference to the Shania Twain song "Damn! I feel like a woman." A song which I hate. Whose annoying melodic hook is now going to be stuck in my head all day. Why do I do this to myself?

     



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