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Biting the breast that feeds you

Clio's two bottom teeth are very, very cute. But they're not nearly as charming when they're clamping down on my nipples, which has happened several times over the past week. The first time, it was at the end of a nursing session when Clio had started getting distracted and silly and was just sort of messing around. She seemed to think it was pretty funny, and I couldn't help laughing either -- that is, after I yelped and said a firm "no" the way I read somewhere that you're supposed to. 

 

But since then, it has happened a few times out of nowhere, right in the middle of nursing sessions. And nobody's happy about it. This morning I was nursing both girls at the same time, Clio bit (hard!), and I screamed, and both girls looked up at me, then pouted and started crying in a low, pitiful "why mommy, why?" sort of way that nearly broke my heart.

 

I know that Clio is teething -- we've had a number of middle of the night screaming episodes lately, and she's been chewing on her finger a lot -- so it's possible that this is a temporary thing -- Mom as Zweiback. But let me tell you, it sure takes away from the cozy cuddly sweetness of breastfeeding when you're tensed in anticipation of those little choppers coming down. I guess if it continues to be a problem, I'm just going to have to start weaning, which is a sad thought. Both girls still really seem to like nursing, though Elsa is certainly more voracious and focused about it, as she has been from the get-go.

 

Could I wean Clio and not Elsa? I don't know. The inconvenience aside, I don't like the idea of having that physical relationship with Elsa and not Clio. I guess I could make up for it with some separate "cuddle time" with Clio. She's a totally cuddly baby. But I don't know how Clio would react if she saw Elsa nursing while she had a bottle instead. They're very aware now of when the other one is nursing, which is why I've gone back to sometimes nursing them both at once.

 

They're almost 11 months old (gulp!) so it's not like it would be a tragedy to have to stop nursing them. I'm planning to stop fairly soon in any case. But it would be nice not to end on quite such a painful note.

 


Comments

 

Bridget said:

I feel your pain, literally. My son got his two bottom teeth at 4 1/2 months. UGH. He was never a great breastfeeder and I didn't have a large supply so we'd supplemented with formula since about 4 weeks. After 2 months of being chomped regularly I decided to wean. It was hard, more for me than him (especially since he was only 6 or so months) but it had to be. Good luck!

November 12, 2007 11:36 AM
 

Renee said:

My son would also bite occasionally when teething.  It seems like you don't want to wean just becasue of the biting so you might consider contacting La Leche League.  They are great for these kinds of problems because the different moms share what worked for them.  Good Luck!

November 12, 2007 12:59 PM
 

Eva said:

Ouch! J always gets into biting mood when he is teething. He often bites at the beginning, though he has done it at the end. The things I do that sometimes help are: cutting him off when he's simply playing, as I know the bite might be coming; pulling him off and saying firmly "no bite" when he does; giving him something to chew on other than me right before, so he doesn't feel like using me as a teether. Also, although I never read this anywhere, when he DOESN'T bite me, I try to give him positive feedback -- stroke his head and say, "thank you for being gentle." It may sound silly, but it seems to work somewhat. Also, now that he's older, before he starts I say "gentle, no bite" and then I swear, when he starts nursing he looks in my eyes like, "how'd I do?" and then I thank him for being gentle.

November 12, 2007 1:06 PM
 

nancyt said:

My advice is to think about it carefully. I weaned my son at 6 months. It just seemed like we were both ready--I was having anxiety about my supply and if he was growing well enough...he seemed like he was insatiably hungry sometimes...it just was the right thing for us. And as soon as I was totally done, I missed it. It's a very emotional thing. In hindsight, I might have tried to go a little longer, but I don't really regret it. Just make sure it's really the right thing for you and the girls.

November 12, 2007 3:20 PM
 

LogicalMama said:

You don't have to wean if no one is ready. They are not nursing if they are biting-- it is physically impossible. When they bite, stop nursing for the moment. Tell them "no" firmly and also tell them that is "owey" to mommy. Believe me, if you are consistent with this, the message will be receive quickly. It keeps happening now, b/c you are saying no, but allowing the nursing session to continue. If you follow through with stopping for a few moments, they will get it for sure. There will be tears, but don't give in immediately.

I promise this will work.

November 13, 2007 1:51 PM
 

Amy said:

Girl, you are living my life.  I have 8 month old boy/girl twins. Gavin already has his two bottom teeth, and a top one is just starting to peek through.  He bites me almost every time I nurse.  And, like you, I never know when it's coming...in the beginning, the middle, the end...he likes to keep me in suspense. I firmly say "no" and pull him off, but I swear, the little shit laughs at me every time.  I'm down to nursing each baby only about twice a day, because of the biting and also because Charlotte, my other one, isn't all that into nursing.  Lately she's been arching her back and screaming every time I try to nurse her until I eventually give in a offer her a bottle.  I would have liked to nurse them through the winter until their first birthday, but at this rate, I don't know if it's going to happen.  Since they were born two months early, it took me until they were 4 months old to properly breastfeed them, with no nipple shield, so I feel like screaming at them: "Don't you know how hard Mommy had to work to get us this far?!!??"

November 13, 2007 2:32 PM
 

Feefifoto said:

Luckily for me, both my kids were late teethers, breaking their first teeth the week after they turned one.  I never had to deal with the biting.  It was sad to finally stop nursing them; I missed the intimacy too.

November 13, 2007 7:59 PM
 

Carissa said:

i stopped breastfeeding my older daughter when she started to bite me around 9 months. with my twins i didn't do that cause my daughter got her first teeth at 4 months. my son didn't till 8 months. i got bit many times. when i would tell my daughter no and put her down, she would laugh like it was so funny! it really hurts!

November 14, 2007 12:01 AM
 

Ewokmama said:

My son has bitten me quite a few times, so I got really good at watching him to see when he stopped sucking so I could unlatch him.  Nothing else worked.  (I am stubborn, though, and didn't wean.  Mostly because he wasn't eating enough solids and there was no way I was going to pump at home.)

November 14, 2007 1:52 PM
 

marissa said:

My son cut his first teeth at 3 months, as did my daughter. I do not know what sin I committed to earn that punishment. Each time we went through a biting stage and it subsided. THey did it with each new tooth and it would happen and I would yelp and it would subside.

My son weaned himself at 11 months, I weaned my daughter at about 13. I was sad both times...

November 14, 2007 6:16 PM
 

dynamitt said:

will a nipple shield work?

November 15, 2007 4:54 AM
 

Melissa said:

Michael did that once or twice before his teeth came in and I immediately stopped the nursing session.  From then on I stopped the session as soon as he stopped nursing seriously.  He hasn't bit again since.  Then again, I am not nursing all the time anymore, either.  He's 9 months old now.  I usually only nurse in the mornings now, and I've stopped pumping at work.  I think it was a sadder transition for me than him.  He's really not pressed!  Good luck, biting hurts!!  I can't even imagine now that he has teeth!

November 17, 2007 8:08 PM
 

Julia said:

Mom sends both her sympathy and the advice that you start feeding her while she's asleep, much like she did when I went on a nursing strike.

November 18, 2007 11:49 PM

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